Gender reveal

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How many people are having or had a gender reveal party? I didn't want anything like that originally and then my family convinced me it would be a bit of fun. Seeing as me and husband will already know the sex at the scan though it seems a bit weird lol. Interested to know if anyone else bothered with one?

I also have a friend who has had the gender written down for her by an NHS sonographer. I think your friend isn’t really handling it properly if she’s spending lots of time dealing with it at the expense of scans Costanza, all she needs to do is say no.

I actually really like the idea of confetti cannons

pass she does say no. It's a trust policy to not write it down. The problem is people then make an official complaint which needs to be acknowledged and dealt with.....even when it's for something as ridiculous as this.

As team lead she has to deal with these complaints. It directly impacts on scanning time.

Never done it with my three we think of it as more American like the baby shower...

They're cringey AF and must be stopped. They are also an unhealthy buying in to more gender essentialist bollocks.

Our hospital just has a poster up saying what they will and won’t do during a scan. You’d have to be thick to make a complaint after the trust have made it clear what they will and wont do (plenty of thick people about though)

Utterly cringey, I am so grateful I am clearly too old to have ever been invited to a Baby Shower or Gender Reveal Party. Think I've only been to one Hen Party in my life as well. Thank Goodness.

It's made perfectly clear what they can and can't do. Doesn't stop people being entitled and thinking the rules don't apply to them.

People are so self centered. They complain because she's 'ruined their gender reveal party' ....when she has most likely had to give someone some bad news about their baby that day.

Apart from the ones where it's just immediate family as an attempt to keep siblings involved, it's a bit egotistical isn't it? We know what we're having, but I don't expect other people to care to the extent that they'd want to attend a special party for it.

I get emails about the active threads on the What to Expect When You're Expecting boards because I have the app, and so many of them stress about the reveal and then the baby shower- all these events and the baby isn't even here yet! I'm only getting over planning my wedding, nevermind all that as well.

In my opinion Gender reveal and Baby shower parties are very pretentious. Nothing is 100% guaranteed. I am a bit superstitious so wouldn't want other people to start giving me presents before baby is here.

Fno, I did not have one.

Not least because only DH and I knew the sex before the DC were born, so first phone calks couid begun with the traditional 'it's a girl (or bo, obvs)' which is a very nice way to do the telling.

I don't actually know anyone in RL who has had one. I don't think they're terribly popular in Britain

"They are also an unhealthy buying in to more gender essentialist bollocks"

Couldn't agree more!

It's horrid enough when people colour code actual babies, but so much worse before they're even born

Another bloody Americanism that has found its way over here!! DH and I have a gender scan (yep, deliberately using that word to piss off the gender nazis on fb so don’t bother telling me I’m wrong!!) next week but have no intention of tell anyone what it shows. Our reason for finding out is we’re expecting twins and have so much to plan it will be easier knowing whether we need lots the same colour or half and half in pink/blue in addition to the gender neutral bits we will be getting from family/friends!!

With all due respect, the sex of your baby doesn’t affect anyone else one iota. They’ll be happy for you whatever you’re having, but gathering everyone in one room for the big announcement like the Oscar ceremony is unbelievably tacky
I didn’t even tell anyone beforehand with any of mine.

Unbelievably tacky. No-one else is that interested in the sex of your baby.

I don't like gender reveal parties or baby showers. It seems so self indulgent like the parents think the world revolves around their baby. However if your close relatives want you to have one and you're happy to host it might be a nice get together for you all. I would only invite the family members that have said they want the party.

I don't agree with any kind of celebration until the baby is safely born.

We will be having a gender reveal.
However, we won't throw a specific party to do so; we are getting married in a very small ceremony around week 23 and will only have close friends and family there. I'm planning to ask everyone to pop a party popper at the end of my speech (very non traditional!)
This will be the first grandchild for all four grandparents, so everyone is very excited!

I’m an American that’s never actually know on anyone who has had a gender reveal.l party. It’s not my thing, but I don’t care what other people do. Plenty of people do seem to care if we are having a boy or girl!

I do generally like baby showers however, I don’t think think they work with the culture here. It’s a pity because I have really good memories of the ones I’ve been to/thrown and find them lovely.

gender reveal party wouldnt be for me but each to their own. Not sure if they would be strictly called baby showers but some of my friends have had afternoon tea type gatherings usually after maternity leave starts or shortly before baby is due and they have been nice. Good time to spoil the mummy to be.

No one really cares that much except you. I'd feel really attention seeky. Usually I say any excuse for a party, but I would never have one of these and I'd raise an eyebrow if any of my friends did. I'd go and I'd take a present and I'm sure I'd have fun...but my eyebrow would still be raised

I think they’re awful, and I agree that it contributes to the “pinking or blueing” of the baby.

I know it’s a bit tacky to say, but a healthy baby really should be the only worry. (It’s the anniversary of my nephew’s death tonight. He would have been 1 yesterday.)