I don't know what to do

[Chez1984]

Hiya everyone.. I'm 34 my partner is 40.. after almost 9 years together and about 5 years of trying for a baby I've just found out I'm pregnant.. he's now decided that he doesn't want a baby.. I got to the point thinking it's never gonna happen now after all this time son I adjusted to the idea of not having a baby.. but after finding out recently I can't help but feel excited.. I have a son already who will be 16 in December.. I always wanted a brother/sister for him but got used to the idea that it was never going to happen.. it's a big shock to us both. My partner wants me to abort about I kinda wanna keep it now.. am I being unfair? Please help x

No you're not being unfair! Tell him to stuff it. Surely he understood that having sex could lead to a baby....even if you had been ttc for ages?

Do you think he'll come round to the idea?

Congratulations by the way!

Sounds like you want this baby. Please don't get an abortion just because he wants you to, you will regret it for the rest of your life if you do.

If he had changed his mind about having a baby he should have had a conversation with you about that and started wearing condoms. He chose not to do that and now you are pregnant. The time for him to speak up has well and truly passed. That is 100% on him, please don't take on board any guilt for this no matter what he says.

Take some time for yourself to really think about what you want, and if that's an abortion then so be it, but make sure you're doing it because you really want to. And if you want to keep the baby but you're worried that he won't stick around then remind yourself that you don't need anyone else to help you raise him/her, you have everything that you need already. If he wants to wuss out after all of this then that's his own failing, not yours.

Also... Congrats x

Thank you x

I'm hoping so xx thank you xx