Anxious about labour

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My ds is 5 and the labour/birth with him was not so good. I was so upset after it for a long time but then managed to brush the memories away.
I'm now expecting no. 2, im going to a different maternity hospital this time and to be honest have avoided all thoughts and conversations about the labour and birth so far.
But I'm now 31+ weeks, I had a growth scan on Friday and looks like I'm on track for another big baby, also the baby is breech still, possibly because of low lying anterior placenta.
I was only scheduled for the scan on Friday so didn't meet the midwife or get to ask questions after the scan. I'm not scheduled to meet her for another 2 weeks. But since then I'm really anxious about everything and don't know who to turn to to ask questions..
Does anyone have any advice to stop me worrying?

I havent beeen through this before but it might help to talk about all your worries a bit more if you havent felt able to up until now? There might be a specialist helpline that can help if you arent able to get enough time with your midwife or maybe even a doula?

I had a very different birth but still very traumatic with my first. I felt it so helpful to write down what I found difficult and why. I know they might not being able to change the experience this time around but I know my midwife can read that be on the same page and it allowed me to acknowledge to myself that while that experience was horrendous, it passed and I have a beautiful baby because of it. You survived that experience before, you have the power of foresight this time around. I shared this with the midwife and it made me feel more able to do it.

Also ask for a double appointment with the midwife? To make sure she has time?

I hope this helps.

Apart from obviously speaking more to midwife when you see her, I recommend the positive birth company hypnobirthing online course, it’s made me feel very hopeful and positive about birth.

Another vote for Positive Birth Company! All my worries and fears have receded.

Highly recommend The Positive Birth Company digital pack too like OP.

I think it helped me a lot which ended in an amazing experience for us.

I have since recommended it to some other girls I know who are due soon & they have brought it & found it to help so much already with mindset, reducing anxiety, information etc.

Well worth the investment!