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Is it strange I'm looking forward to giving birth for 'a break'?

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Angiepants · 14/04/2019 07:15

I'm coming up for being 37wks preg with our second bundle of joy.
Our first now big bundle is 12m old.
I'm actually looking forward to the birth and secretly hoping I get to spend a day or two in hospital for a break 🤔
As oppose to last time when I was bricking it 😁
I love my 1yr old dearly, but with me being in charge of all the childcare (including running around after dp some of the time) being up in the night, dealing with teething, a poorly baby with a cold and post immunisation grumpiness along with generally feeling knackered and uncomfortable from pregnancy I can't wait to go into hospital and hopefully stay overnight and get an entire nights sleep!
😄
I can't be the only one...?

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moggle · 14/04/2019 07:24

An entire nights sleep?! Have you forgotten what newborn babies and hospital wards are like!!
I totally get where you’re coming from but I don’t think it’s going to be like that!! Even so, if you have a straightforward birth most places boot you out same day with a second baby, especially if they’re born in the morning. Keep your legs crossed til past 2pm I’d say!
And good luck with it all. That’s a tough age gap I reckon for the first few years xx

SushiTrain · 14/04/2019 07:28

Nope i was exactly the same,couldnt wait to escape the crap i had at home- &"got lucky"-scored a c-section had with my own en-suite room for a whole week after..look back fondly on the 3meals,tea&biccies..lovely time just me&DC bonding together..good luck

CharlottesInterWeb · 14/04/2019 07:31

No you're not the only one!

I couldn't wait to go in for my second to get a break from my relentless 3 year old/housework /cooking, etc.

It was an elective cesarean and was scheduled for a Wednesday. I was as excited as if I was going on holiday! (not to mention barely mobile & in agony so looking forward to that changing too!) I got to the ward for 7.30am. The staff told me I'd be going to theatre around 10am and so I was all prepped... I was then told that there was some delay so would be the afternoon. So I waited. And waited.
Only to be told later that there had been several emergencies (poor ladies) and my section would have to be rescheduled!

I was beyond gutted but went back 2 days later and had a 2 night break with just the inconvenience of a c-section wound, a newborn baby with tongue tie not breastfeeding properly and him/me not sleeping well as a result. However, it was lovely! I felt looked after, I rested, I was brought food that I didn't have to prepare or ask for, I cuddled my new DS without upsetting anyone (v jealous 3 year old!) - it is a lovely memory.

I hope you enjoy it too, get looked after and your labour goes well. SmileFlowers

TooStressyTooMessy · 14/04/2019 07:34

YANBU. I was induced with DC2 when DC1 was 2. That day and night in hospital before I had DC2 was like a spa break. I still look back on it fondly Smile.

Warmhandscoldheart · 14/04/2019 07:46

I had ECS with DC 2 leaving a 'up every 3hrs' 18mo at home. Only me and 1 other woman in the bay for 5 days, it was wonderful.

Notmorewashing · 14/04/2019 07:47

Good luck with that won’t the baby be up all night ??? I also found the hospital post labour ward hellish and noisy

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Angiepants · 14/04/2019 08:29

Maybe I just got lucky the first time..?
Staff offered to take baby most of the first night so I could rest.
2nd night the ward was fine EXCEPT my baby who did cry all night.
This time I am armed with womb sounds and extra swaddling 😁

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NannyPear · 14/04/2019 09:23

I will never forget when I was on post natal ward with DC1, and a lady came in at about 8am. She'd only had her DC3 a couple of hours earlier. Around midday a midwife came in and said, "ok, well all seems well so you can go home now!". Granted, the lady looked great, but she responded that she was just going to stay in for another few hours and was keen on her other two children to visit at hospital because they had been looking forward to it etc. It was abundantly clear she was hoping for a day or so away from the madness before going back home to a family of 3 young kids 😂

physicskate · 14/04/2019 09:25

I was just done with pregnancy. I was hoping birth would help my debilitating spd (and it did). After three days of latent labour and no sleep, I just wanted to give birth so I could sleep.

Screaming babies and a reluctant feeder meant 20 mins of sleep on my night in the ward! Only to be woken by a midwife saying, 'your baby is screaming' once I'd actually fallen asleep.

We almost got back to sleep around 6am, but one of my ward-mates decided to start making calls on speaker phone around then.

I probably could have done with a second night so I could have some more drugs during recovery, but I was desperate to get home to have my husband there to help (as I felt very abandoned and unable to care for my baby in hospital as I hated ringing to bug the midwife to do things like get stuff from my hospital bag which I couldn't get to).

cja06 · 14/04/2019 09:27

I think you got lucky the first time...

I got zero sleep when I stayed on the ward overnight and no support at all. I was exhausted, weak and wished massively I could just go home.

Can relate to wanting a break though, us mums rarely get them do we.

pinkyredrose · 14/04/2019 09:29

Why doesn't your lazy arse partner do any childcare?

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