Riddled with guilt about bringing a second baby in to the world with a 2 year old

[Loudloopy]

So, currently sat crying about the guilt I feel about bringing a second baby in to the world with my two year old, he's so used to being such a pampered two year old, it breaks my heart and the thought of him feeling left out, as I'm nearing the end of my pregnancy (33 weeks pregnant) still working, energy levels dipping I'm now finding it hard to run around after him, I'm only 5ft 1 as it is, I just don't want him to feel left out, sad or insecure, he's my everything and of course I'm asking my self how will I love another child, I even feel guilt ridden as soon as I start doing anything to prepare for the new baby, I feel guilty about trying to avoid anything to strenuous as I just physically can't, worries about how it will impact his life once babies here and the closeness we have, baisicly is anyone in the same boat ? Or offer advise or just a little reassurance

Thanks in advance

Awwwwww thanks guys you have put my mind completely at rest !!! Since I've posted this post I've part down the nursery orderd all the expensive stuff I had left to get ! And LO hasn't stopped talking abut the bebe!!!! I really hope in 6 months time i can laugh at this post !!! Love to you all xxxx and thanks again

I am about 15 years ahead of you but remember feeling just how you do. My youngest is my eldest's biggest fan and best friend. They are inseparable even now as teens, and always say that the best gift I ever gave them was each other. Enjoy - sibling love is amazing to watch 😊

You will laugh. I felt exactly the same. I was terrified I wouldn't love the new baby. Loved her immediately and my first dc has had her life immeasurably improved by her little sister. I so feel for you though as I remember these feelings well!

OP, hugs to you. It will be fine, honestly! What I realised after DC2 was that if I had 200 DC, I'd find love for them all. My DC don't get on, as it happens, but I'm still so, so, so, glad I had them both with a small gap. Someone once asked me who I would live my life as if I could live it again. My answer was: myself, when my children were small. Having DC2 was the absolute icing on the cake (to my surprise!) x

@Loudloopy I'm not in the same position but I have a 32month old and he absolutely adores his 1 year old cousin who has a big sister also 32 months. It will be tough and you will feel the guilt but believe me, your 2 year old will be so so lucky and love having a sibling - it's the best gift you can give your son. I hope your pregnancy goes well.

When I was feeling just how you explained someone told me ‘you’re giving your child the best lifelong gift you can’ which some may not agree with but I now think is so true. My dc1 was adored & doted on and with hindsight I think could’ve turned into a precious brat if our little bundle of fresh air hadn’t arrived (of course I’m not saying anything about only children generally!). I think how you introduce the new baby can make a huge difference. I knew all about making a huge fuss of the toddler and ignoring the baby so we left baby in the bedroom in her Moses basket while I got dd1 out of bed and brought her in our room. She then genuinely thought she’d discovered the new baby ‘I found a baby!!!’- worked out even better than planned! Of course it’s not carried on as idyllic as that but apart from the rule of only holding baby when sat with me I was as relaxed as I possibly could be about her holding and touching and always referred to ‘oh listen the baby wants you and me’ etc
Basically what I’m trying to say is see it as a new experience you are going to share with your toddler, it’s just completely different from having a firstborn but truly just as magical.