Depression

[Nurry]

Hi guys,
I'm hoping for a little guidance/support/advice if possible.
I was diagnosed with depression and BPD a few years ago and came off my meds (with agreement with the doctor) a few months before I found out I was pregnant. I'm 17+5 and it's not hitting me like a ton of bricks to the point it's effecting my relationship. One of the happiest experiences of my life and I'm so so down. Don't get me wrong I am more than thankful to have this experience as have previously suffered a MC I just don't know how to cope

Did you get any therapy for the BPD? CBT or psychodynamic?

Did you read any self help books that you found useful? Can you have a go at reading some?

I've also been diagnosed with BPD (although I've disagreed with it and think it's actually bipolar. MH services here are not great.)

I had PND with my first and Post Partum Psychosis with my youngest. I am now 4 weeks pregnant.

I would suggest, from experience, get as much MH professional involvement as quick as poss. You run the risk of having psychosis or PND. Over here we have something called a Perinatal Team. They deal with MH in pregnancy up until baby is 1. Could you ask your midwife if your area has this kind of support?

Depression in pregnancy is not something to be ignored imo and from experience.

Of course you may not have the same experience but it's good to be aware of any future risks.

Hope this helps...?

@Preggosaurus9 no I've not really received anything, I saw a private therapist for a little while but the cost became too much. If I'm honest I've never tried any books, do you have anything that you recommend? @kamikazeshady that's my biggest fear of how I'm going to be once baby is here if I feel this low at the moment. I'm scheduled in to see someone in about 3 weeks referred by my midwife but that wasn't through choice just because I had a mental disorder on file

All I'd say is don't decline the help and embrace it. Whatever happens post birth is out of your control so it's best to be prepared. Make sure you have a good support network around you.

I'm in the same boat as you.
Had depression beforehand, but now that I'm 19 weeks it's gotten ridiculous. I have a referral to PMH but not for another three weeks.
I feel so detached from this whole pregnancy and I'm terrified for the birth, and after.

I'm here if you need an ear. I know how hard it can be, especially when it's out of your control. xxxx

Depression in pregnancy is more
Common that post natal depression but it’s not talked about.

Definitely ask for a referral to the PNMH team.

@kamikazeshady @Jackshouse thank you, I will definitely go to my appointments offered and fingers crossed they help.
@Parent19876 as the other posts have said it's important that we accept the help that is offered to us. I'm so sorry you're feeling this way too, I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy

Do. I saw them after I had my daughter and they were amazing. I felt like a person and never a patient.

Weirdly enough, the best mental health intervention I was ever offered while living here was only when I was pregnant.

@Nurry have you spoken to your midwife or gp about it? mine were very understanding, even though of course it's still a long wait. I just know that i need help now before it gets too bad and i am also terrified for the first few months, especially as a single mom. i have a hard time with this, but definitely don't be afraid to ask for help 💕