Last year, I told my mum pretty much straight away at 4w. We told DH's parents at about 6w. We didn't mention it to anybody else.
My 12 scan came and I had planned to wait for results for downs etc to come back before announcing anywhere else or telling anybody else.
Sadly, the 12w scan showed the pregnancy was not viable and we had to make the heartbreaking decision to terminate.
It was heartbreaking phoning our parents and explaining. But I'm also so glad we didn't have to tell anybody else or field off wellwishers over the subsequent weeks and tell them I'm no longer pregnant.
I'm newly pregnant again now. I'm nearly at 5w. I have no idea when to tell our parents this time if I'm honest.
I am considering booking a private scan at 8w but the condition our baby had last time doesn't sometimes show until 20w! (Though it's insanely unlikely that this baby would get it too. We had tests done and it wasn't genetic). But so much can go wrong at any time between scans that I can see arguments for and against telling people at all stages!
My mum personally asked her not to tell her until 12w "next time" (this time) as she wouldn't want to spend the whole time worrying (she has anxiety and depression). But we might tell the in-laws soon as they're visiting and will certainly notice that I'm not drinking. So I'm none the wiser on what to do!
I am also unsure about sharing scan pictures or announcing on Facebook after my scan, as seeing those things really did tip me over the edge after my experience. But FB is my main point of contact for a lot of people these days.
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