7 weeks and nervous

[Nillynally]

I feel awful writing this because I chose to become pregnant and have been extremely happy and laid back for the last 33 weeks.

But now nerves are kicking in. Now I'm close, all anyone talks about is how rubbish being a parent is. How much I'll hate it and how tired I'll be.

My husband and I are very in love and waited a long time to have children so that we could enjoy life a little and have some money so no real worries there. We have a lovely life and felt the time was right to share it with someone.

But I'm nervous firstly about the birth (obviously) but keeping calm (hypnobirthing).
I'm nervous I won't be a good mum, I won't have the patience.
I'm nervous I won't love my baby like I'm supposed to (nothing indicates this but I'm a stern teacher and I'm worried I'll take this into being a mum)
I'm scared I'll be like my own mum (embarrassing, cold, narcissistic, unfeeling, cruel)
I'm nervous my marriage will change, and just generally nervous that I've made a mistake.

Tell me this is normal? How do I switch back to being excited and happy?

@Nillynally of course this is normal, your life is about to change in a huge way and you have 0 clues what your doing because you've never done it before.
First off dont listen to the negativity other people are spreading, because really they only talk like that when they've had a bad day, or are remembering he bad stuff, the majority of the time they love it.
The birth is obviously something your feeling nervous about, we all feel it so your not alone!
I'm sure you will be a great mum, obviously we can never know what's going to happen but the fact that your worried about being a good mum indicates that you want to be a good mum! And all the negative stuff with your mum, you've seen it and lived through it and know you dont want to be that way, so you wont.
A big change is happening to you, your body and your life so it's natural to be feeling like this. The only thing I can say is try not to think about the negative so much, I know that's easier said than done, but just try and push the worrys to the back of your mind, dont let the worrys ruin the last few weeks your pregnancy. Enjoy it and try to relax.

@1990carey thank you, this is what I need to hear! X

all anyone talks about is how rubbish being a parent is. How much I'll hate it and how tired I'll be.

This is my least favourite part of being pregnant. I don't know why people feel the need to be so negative. I've had some friends who yes, they had a hell of a time with sleep deprivation and never having a life but I also have other friends who had incredibly easy babies and of course life is different but it's not this doomsday sceanrio some people put across.

I'm going to hold out telling most people for as long as humanly possible because I don't want those comments. It really winds me up - what are they trying to gain? "my life is shit so yours has to be shit too!!"