Why am I so rubbish at pregnancy?

[SiobhanM89]

Sorry if this is a bit of a whinge but I am so miserable and need to let it out. I’m 25+4, I had hyperemesis until around week 20 and still felt nauseous until week 21/22 then I had about 3 or so quite good weeks.

But now I am feeling so rubbish again. I’m not vomiting but feel nauseous all the time again as well as feeling absolutely exhausted. I’m doing my best to eat right and rest but I am still always so tired. I’m getting light headed and dizzy and having really bad headaches. I went to get checked out and blood pressure and iron levels etc all came back fine. So I just don’t understand why I feel so awful.

I was signed off work for almost 3 months while the hyperemesis was at its worst, then had loads of holidays to use so I’ve only really been back to my normal hours this week. But I had to go home early because I felt like I was going to pass out. I work in a supermarket so on my feet the whole time and I just physically couldn’t do it (it’s one of the small shops so there’s nothing seated to do really and very little suitable duties for pregnant women).

I’m so worried now about this week and whether to go in or not, I’d feel so bad getting signed off again and worry they would think I’m just taking the p**s. It’s really getting me down. I haven’t found anything about this pregnancy enjoyable- the hyperemesis nearly destroyed me physically and mentally. I lost 2.5 stone in about 8 weeks (I was big anyway but that’s still a lot in a short space of time). I thought I had turned a corner but now feel like every day is just a battle to get to the end of it and the smallest things exhaust me. I’m meant to be in work tomorrow but don’t know what to do as I say there’s not much to do except stand at the tills as everything else involves lifting/pushing etc and being on my feet for too long makes me so dizzy.

Sorry for the ramble just really upset I’m like this and feel like I am crap at being pregnant. The other girls in work keep commenting that they never had anything like that or sickness etc and how easy they found pregnancy and it just makes me feel so much worse.

Sorry to hear you're having such a tough pregnancy, OP. Sounds awful. You're not crap at pregnancy - doesn't sound like there's much for you to enjoy tbh. However you're over halfway there now! There are some anti nausea tablets you can get - worth speaking to your doctor?

Sorry to hear OP. I’m in the same position, just spent my evening vomiting into a bucket because I’m sick of being bent over my toilet! (I like to change things up you know, keep it fresh!)
The only difference is I have mAnaged to return to work, but I struggle.

Point is - I also feel like I’m shit and ‘being pregnant’ and if I’m honest I feel a bit of a failure. You’re not alone

I could have written this exact post a few weeks ago!
Hyperemesis is the absolute worst and it feels like nobody takes it seriously at all. They just think it's morning sickness and you'll be fine.

If it makes you feel any better, I hit about 28 weeks and it disappeared almost completely and I got a few weeks of managing to enjoy the nice bits of being pregnant. Overall though, pregnancy has been a load of crap! It will be over before you know it

@ChrisPrattsFace Feel your pain 💛

It might make you giggle that my favourite moment so far has been being sick in a bin (one for sale, not for public use) in Asda! I had to buy the bloody thing!

You break you buy! 😂
I’ve familiar with all the bushes on my route to work, I’m familiar with the sinks that wash my vomit down easier than others while I’m in work, and now when people ask me about ‘how my sickness is easing’ I give them a death glare.
They’ve stopped asking me 😊

It's been very similar for me, 24 weeks now and only just recently feeling like a human, but I am still on medication for it - the minute I try to even lower the dosage, I start throwing up like a fire hose again. Currently off work as well, so that helps but I do feel judged and perceived as lazy by others because why would you not cope with a little bit of morning sickness, right
It also doesn't help that my sister is also pregnant, she's 10 years older than me and it's been easy breezy for her. So seeing her going to gym and on hiking trips is really not helping the general feeling.
Anyway, I do sympathize

@SiobhanM89 Ohh honey you are NOT rubbish at pregnancy, but pregnancy is giving you a very hard time!
Feeling this awful would be hard for anyone to cope with, yet pregnant women are supposed to "just get on with it", it's very unfair. You have a right to be upset and you have a right to cry and whinge. Pregnancy is hard and it can totally suck. It's not flowers and sunshine for all women.
I go back to work next week after being signed off sick, and I'm fully expecting the same sort of comments from women at work that you've had. They can go stuff themselves as far as I'm concerned!

Has your employer done a risk assessment and can they provide a chair for you to use when to need to take a breather?

Really hope things improve for you.