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Did you wait for your first period after miscarriage before ttc again?

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Confused38 · 06/04/2019 21:40

So I had a miscarriage 10 days ago. Bleeding is very slight now and pretty much stopped. They told me to wait until I have had my next period before we ttc again. From reading up I imagine this is to make dating accurate.
I was wondering if I take a test in a week and it’s negative... just so I know I was not pregnant before a certain date and make a note of when we are intimate then between all of the we should roughly know how many weeks we would be ?
I’m just not sure I want to wait potentially for another 8 weeks as they have said it could take 4-6 weeks for my first period to come. Seems like a long time

Secondly I guess I wanted to ask how many women on here who had a miscarriage waited until after their first period? Or who started trying before that.
Thanks

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Aimily · 06/04/2019 21:46

Bless you! It's a totally horrible situation and I'm sending hugs.

I've been there and I would wait, one because they have advised it and two when I miscarried last year the nurse in the m&c unit told me to wait for at least one period, they did say two preferably, but at least one before trying again to allow my body to recover.

Ambs81 · 06/04/2019 22:00

I got pregnant after my second period, I would definitely wait for at least one.
my cycles were pretty haywire for the 2 months, and the month I conceived I must have ovulated at least 5/6 days I thought I would.
So as hard as it is I’d say wait it out, also remember not to have sex for 2 week post-miscarriage as you’ll have an increased risk of infection.

dragonmummy17 · 06/04/2019 22:07

Sorry for your miscarriage. Hugs... it's a horrible time.
We didn't wait, although I didn't get pregnant either. In hindsight I'm glad I didn't get pregnant straight away as I wasn't ready emotionally.
However it's a personal decision and for you it might be right to try again straight away

OhTheRoses · 06/04/2019 22:10

Hmm. Back in 1993 a GP told me bodies get pg again when they are ready.

Back in 1997 after a very late loss, I got pg after the first period and lost quickly but then bled for weeks. Saw a gynaecologist whobsaid not to get pg until after tests etc and made a follow up apt. DH and I had a row and made up. By next apt I was pg.

OP, dd was born 51 weeks after a loss at 27 weeks and conceived when I was told not to. Bodies and life work in mysterious ways.

You will be in great distress right now. I am sorry. It will likely all be alright in the end

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Confused38 · 06/04/2019 22:15

Thank you everyone. Maybe I should wait.

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Mrsgtobe · 06/04/2019 22:16

We planned to wait a couple of cycles after our misc last year. I thought my period was late as hormones settled down etc as we had only dtd once since, 10 days after the miscarriage. Pregnancy test positive and here I am 34 weeks with our rainbow. So when people ask was it planned I never know what to say! Our first pregnancy was planned but this little bean was our miracle who was obviously determined to meet us. As pp has said our bodies work in mysterious ways. Sending you hugs x

Dockray · 06/04/2019 22:27

I didn't wait. I was desperate to be pregnant again and the nurse on the gynae ward told me to try again when I wanted to. I fell pregnant again two weeks later and he's now a gangly 12 year old. The sonographer who did my 12 week scan gave me loads of free photos as she was so happy to see me back again so quickly.

I spent the whole pregnancy paranoid that something would go wrong, but I guess that would have happened anyway.

MissDai5y · 06/04/2019 22:41

I waited one period. I was given no guidance at the hospital but my friend who had had a few mcs (also has 2 boys) advised it.

I think it was for the best and I got pregnant straight away with my now 9mth old dd.

LJS8987 · 06/04/2019 22:45

I'm with @Mrsgtobe I had a mc at the end of Jan, had a good valentines night and I'm now 9 weeks pregnant with no period- didn't "try" in the sense of becoming obsessive over ovulation but wasn't worried about getting pregnant so soon- the only reason I can see to wait is to be more accurate with dating (as long as you're emotionally really too that is)
Sorry for your loss too...it's really shit!! X

Bambamber · 06/04/2019 23:12

I didn't wait. The dating can make you even more anxious if you don't wait. I miscarried at the very beginning of January and was given the go ahead to try again straight away. I did in fact get pregnant again first cycle. Going by my dates I should be about 12 weeks, but I am only about 8 weeks (confirmed by scan). It had taken 7 weeks for me to actually ovulate after the miscarriage. Thankfully I knew when I ovulated so I knew that my actual dates would be hugely different than using the miscarriage as LMP. If I wasn't aware that I ovulated so late it would have been incredibly stressful.

If you are going to try again straight away, just make sure you take into account that your cycles may be longer (or shorter). If your'e not sure when you ovulate it can difficult knowing when to test and can be frustrating if your period doesn't turn up but tests are negative.

I don't regret trying again straight away. Good luck with whatever you choose to do

keepingspiritsup · 06/04/2019 23:37

I didn't wait and had back to back miscarriages followed by an ectopic as I just hadn't allowed my body time to recover - it's not worth it and medical advice is there for a reason not just to make it easier for a doctor to date your next pregnancy x

Ilovemypyjamas · 07/04/2019 07:20

I am 26 weeks pregnant just now after 2 consecutive miscarriages. I already have a DD aged 2. The midwife said the only reason they advise to wait is for dating purposes and that some women may not feel emotionally ready to TTC straight away.
We didn't actively make a decision to wait, we had sex twice because it felt right and I got pregnant. My midwife told me the previous two miscarriages would have no bearing on this pregnancy and everything has been fine so far.
Do what feels right for you

Ilovemypyjamas · 07/04/2019 07:22

Sorry that should say 'we didn't didn't actively make a decision to wait to try again'

Ilovemypyjamas · 07/04/2019 07:27

Apologies that posted halfway through me typing! Basically we didn't go back to ttc properly is what I meant to say (3 times now, sorry everyone!)

MrsS92 · 07/04/2019 07:39

I didn’t, the mc was confirmed on the 1st January, and I’m now currently 14 weeks pregnant again.
The midwife said it was absolutely fine and that they only advise to wait for a period for dating purposes.
We just guessed from when I would of approximately ovulated following the miscarriage and my dates were pretty much spot on.

Ambs81 · 07/04/2019 18:33

This thread certainly proves what they say after improved fertility after mc! Lots of ppl falling pg on their first cycles!

TerriB1984 · 07/04/2019 20:18

Another one here who didn’t wait. I had a miscarriage back in October. I waited for the bleeding to stop and took a pregnancy test to make sure it was negative and then cracked on with it. I conceived again immediately without getting a period first and I’m currently 24 weeks. It is however a very personal decision. Mine was a very early miscarriage which may or may not have made a difference to my decision but emotionally I felt ready.

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Confused38 · 07/04/2019 23:34

I have had no bleeding for 2 days now so I’m hoping it is over. We will wait the 2 weeks they suggest so no risk of infection then I’ll take a test make sure it is negative and we will see how we are feeling then.

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Wordie · 08/04/2019 08:06

I’m another who didn’t wait. Had MC after a year of trying and decided to have a ‘month off’ but had a boozy anniversary meal and got pregnant 2 weeks after MC with no period. Currently 40 + 3, only problem for me is that I feel like I’ve been pregnant for so long!!

Good luck with whatever you decide/happens. X

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Confused38 · 09/04/2019 14:51

No bleeding 4 days now. I think it is over. We will wait until 18th April as that is when they said re:infection risk then we will start I think. I have been feeling quite intimate and been getting some mild cramping and feeling pretty irritated like I normally do so not sure if this is ovulation or not. I guess we will find out.

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yellowcracker · 09/04/2019 19:37

Hello confused I spoke too you over on my thread about my positive test so quickly after my miscarriage. It is definitely reassuring reading these posts!

I had a missed miscarriage and ended up having a d&c waited three weeks got a bfn then dtd, like others said it just felt right at the time. Fast forward to now where I have a bfp! Still very early days.

Spoke to my gp today, he wants me to test again in a week before he contacts the midwifes. Also abit miffed at him as he felt the need to laugh and say ”well that was quick" which has made me feel awful. We weren't actively trying but will be over the moon if this progresses. Now worried that it is too quick. He also made a comment that my uterus may not hold the pregnancy as I didn't give my body time to recover, although reading online this will make no difference.

LJS8987 · 09/04/2019 19:51

@yellowcracker I really wouldn't let what he said bother you!
I had my midwife appt today and she was working my dates out I made a joke about having no period to work from and she said don't worry it happens all the time!

It what he said was the case there would be lots of research and they would categorically tell you not to ttc immediately after a mc!

Wishing you lots of luck xx

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Confused38 · 09/04/2019 20:05

Oh, that’s awful @yellowcracker.
I hope you get the outcome you want. Keep us informed xx

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troppibambini · 09/04/2019 20:12

I've had three mcs and got pregnant immediately after two of them (as in before my next period) both were successful pregnancies.
I'm so sorry for your loss x

Rolo08 · 30/08/2023 06:13

@yellowcracker @Confused38 hello, how did you both get on? I started miscarrying 5 weeks ago but only had a MVA a few days ago. I've been told it's safe to start trying again once I get my negative in 3 weeks (which I already have) so I don't need to wait but I'm worried about the outcome if I don't wait for a period. I've been told I don't need to though x

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