Dreading my family's visit after baby is born

[Monipop84]

I am dreading my family's visit after baby is born is a week's time. I have a narcissistic mother, and enabler father. Mother is prone to tantrums and making everything about herself, at all times - many celebrations were spoilt by her fickle moods over insubstantial matters. An explosive argument at Xmas on the date of their visit - straight away after the birth ("It's their choice, not ours") left us barely speaking for the last trimester. They refused to wait two weeks like we asked, yet they are acting like they are the victims and deserve an apology. I am truly done with this childish behaviour and drama - but hoped they would at least behave just before/after the birth. Nada - my mother seems crazier than ever, on the rare occasions we interact over phone/Whatsapp. Luckily they are staying in a hotel, while my younger brother is with us (still invasive, but he's a good egg). DH is under instructions to boot them out if my mother starts with her crazy tantrums again, but still - I am supposed to have emotional support, not being dragged down by an old bitter woman FFS!

It's not up to her she may be in a hotel but it's up to you guys if you open the door to them as you said you need emotional support and if you think she isn't going to do that what's the point?... Nip it in the bud while you still can and make her aware of how your feeling regardless of her tantrums and tell her how you feel if she still insists on coming down make her ware she's out the door if she can't behave herself.

Don’t tell her immediately when the baby is born. Good you’ve got them in a hotel and not staying in your home.

When baby has arrived and you’ve settled or gone home just send message “Baby X arrived etcetc... We’d love to see you on when we are available for visitors.