First Midwife Appointment

[Pregnant2019]

My friend has recently found out she's pregnant. However, due to various factors, her and her partner are back living at home with their parents (they're both in their 30's, just for context). They're currently looking at houses to rent because their plan to buy has fallen through.

My friend has been told that her first appointment is usually done at home but she does not want her parents to know yet. I've advised her to be honest with the midwife as it won't be the first time they've heard this but she's still worried. I've also offered her my house.

Does anyone know what happens in this sort of situation?

I've not heard of the first appointment being at home to be honest. Some areas have a Health Visitor visit at home later in the areas but my midwife appointments were always in a clinical setting. They'll likely want to take urine and blood. Has she been told officially that it's at home?

*Later in the pregnancy that was supposed to say!

I was given the option of home but it could also have been at the surgery

with my 1 year old I had booking in appointment at home, I’ve since moved house ( 5 mins away) and This time I had booking in appointment at the hospital ( same hospital I gave birth in as last baby though only last year so not sure why the difference in such a short space of time.

I would simply call midwife and tell her it’s not possible to have at home and why, she will have a clinic or th hospital your friend will be blue to attend instead.

All my appointments have been at home (except scans) Bloods taken and urine checked at home. But if she just lets the midwife know, I'm sure it can be arranged elsewhere- and your house is a good idea. All she needs to do is call them

Mine was not at home, it was at a local clinic. Local to me the policy is always at clinic as it allows the midwives to see more people in less time, rather than at home but it varies area to area.

She can ask to have the meeting somewhere else, it's not uncommon and they won't insist on doing it at home. She just needs to explain that she is in shared accommodation and needs to have it somewhere confidential. No need to elaborate further!

My booking in appointment was at home but it was almost four years ago now so I can't remember if I was given the option to go elsewhere.

I'm site she's worrying over nothing, but she's really worrying! I'm trying to help her as best I can but I've no idea what to do in this situation.

I'll tell her to just be honest.