I've been seeing this guy since November 2018 and things were great. He's Genoa nice guy, has a grown attitude, lives alone and we have a strong connection. I found out in Feb that he's been caught between two worlds. I found out that he had been in a relationship with another woman for the past 3 years and New Years would have been their anniversary but he spent it with me. I spoke to the other woman and she admitted that he had fallen out of love with her ages before him and I met but they were still seeing each other and they were once trying for a baby. She has a son of 9 from a previous relationship and they were basically a family unit LITERALLY. When she found out about me she said she was done now for good - the messages I saw (before she knew about me) sounded like she was done anyway but still looked like he was trying to make things work. When he was confronted he still lied about everything but then a few days after he was back to me. Shortly after I found out I was pregnant (5-6 weeks) and he wants to keep it and be a family and work on things. I'm 10 weeks pregnant now and I just feel like "what if I'm making the biggest mistake of my life" I barely know this guy but I still definitely like him. I mean, we hardly talk about the situation, and if we do, it's always me bringing it up. It's as if it's. It happening in his eyes - but all he is saying is that he still defo wants to have the baby and so do I - he's just dealing with all the emotions and still trying to process everything. My thing is when do we start planning then, when do have "have the conversation". We haven't even met each other's folks and he's not even initiating THAT!! I have no idea what to do to progress. My mum is upset. My dad is supportive.
I still want the baby, but I find myself being upset sometimes and crying as I don't want to bring a child into the world that I cannot support.
Would love to hear from other mums that may have been/ are in this situation and what's good to help with my mental state
Thank you xx