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beansprout · 10/09/2004 09:44

I'm so sorry to hear all of this. I'm sorry but I don't have experience of this but I do really wish you well and hope you can get the rest and support you need. Take care.

Tessiebear · 10/09/2004 09:45

Afraid I havnt got any experience or wise words - just want to wish you lots of luck and [[[[Hugs]]]]]]] Really sorry about your FIL too

Marina · 10/09/2004 09:49

No wise words as no experience, just very sorry to hear this, gglimpopo. You've both had such a distressing time - is dh fully in the picture now?
I seem to recall you have professional healthcare knowledge from another thread so I don't think there's anything I can say that will help, but I do know personally two 24-weekers who are fine. Little, both with compromised eyesight due to oxygen therapy, slightly late to walk, but feisty, lovely children who are generally meeting their milestones (one is one, the other five and a half).
Hope lots of others will see this and post advice/reassurance.

Blu · 10/09/2004 09:54

Oh ggglimpopo, what a time you have had, so sorry, for you and your DH.

I have no experience of this at all, but a aquaintance / colleague did. She sat it out, and sat it out, knowing that each day was an important day further forward, and I can't remember how early her DS was born - but I can tell you that now (age 2)he tears round the park and the only problem he has is a lack of front teeth because he knocked them out in an over-enthusiastic climbing escapade.

I'm not surprised you feel vulnerable. tbh, I'm amazed that you are sounding so calm and strong, since you are under so many pressures.
Take care.

princesspeahead · 10/09/2004 09:59

oh ggglimpopo, I'm so sorry to hear this, and sorry for your dh and you in the loss of your fil, it must be an incredibly anxious time for you. I have a friend who had a 27weeker and a 28 weeker and both are fine, but I'm not denying it was extraordinarily stressful for them both for months after the birth. I'm sure you know but the key thing is that every single day you can keep the baby in counts enormously. and every single ounce the baby weighs counts enormously. so you really do have to rest, and you really do have to stay horizontal so the baby gets as much blood as possible and therefore puts on as much weight as possible. If I were you I would really be on almost complete bed rest - so difficult I know.

The other thing you really have to be aware of is that if you do go into early labour, because the baby is so small you have a very much increased risk of cord prolapse, which clearly is very dangerous for the baby. So if you do feel you are in proper labour, you should have a feel up you to make sure you can't feel any cord popping out of the cervix, and if so call an ambulance IMMEDIATELY and keep your rear propped up high in the air (praying mantis style) so relieve pressure on the cord. They will probably keep you in this position all the way to hospital. Don't want to scare you but it is a relatively common thing to happen with preemie babies and managing it properly can make the difference between brain damage or not.

Poor you. But the main thing is that they do wonderful things with very preemie babies these days especially once past 27 weeks. Hang in there! Good luck xx

binkie · 10/09/2004 10:07

What an extraordinary amount to deal with - how do you manage to sound so calm? So sorry for your dh and mil.

My sil had twins at less than 30 weeks last year - 28 I think, and it was a spontaneous early labour like yours sounds to be. They were very little, and were in hospital for their first 3 months - but they've just turned one and are further on physically than either of my (42-week and 41-week) babies were at that age; and no problems at all in terms of eyesight, no cognitive delays, etc. It was important for their parents though that there was a good preemie baby unit available. Presumably that is standing ready for you should it be needed?

Flossam · 10/09/2004 10:15

Oh my god you poor thing. It sounds as though you have all been through hell. Hang on in there, and stay as relaxed as you can..try not to feel to frustrated by it all. Think of yourselve as that proverbial oven...only a ceramic one, you need a bit more care than some others. So sorry you have been through all this, look after yourself please.

Azure · 10/09/2004 10:27

So sorry to hear of all this. What an awful few weeks you have had. Best of luck for the rest of your pregnancy.

sweetkitty · 10/09/2004 11:50

Sorry again I have nothing to add that hasn't already been said. What a terrible time for you sending you virtual hugs and best wishes. Every day you remain pregnant is another day forward for the little one.

Take care

florenceuk · 10/09/2004 17:01

No wise words but sending you some virtual hugs and best wishes. Please please take it easy, and don't feel guilty - have you got lots of help? All the best.

SoupDragon · 10/09/2004 17:20

Take it easy and stop feeling guilty about doing nothing. Can you find things to do that you can do whilst resting to make yourself feel like you're being useful? If you can't think of anything, don't stress about it. You are doing something very important and useful after all - you're building a baby.

Take care.

CountessDracula · 10/09/2004 17:23

Good lord, you poor thing - I think I would have been sectioned by now if it were me.

Best of luck, and sorry about your poor fil. Will be thinking of you xx

Miaou · 10/09/2004 17:24

I've got no advice to give, but lots of hugs and support, and I am fervently wishing you all the best. (((((((hugs))))))

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Jimjams · 10/09/2004 19:58

I know a 25 weeker- now age 5 and fine. I also had a friend who went into early labour then it all settled, and settled (she was told she would deliver early) and she went to 41 weeks. Take it easy- ask to go into hospital if you have to (I would find it difficult to take it easy with children at home) and I'll be thinking of you......

ScummyMummy · 11/09/2004 09:17

Sorry to hear about this, ggglimpopo. Sounds incredibly stressful. PPP's advice sounds great. Lots of love and luck to you.

Maybe you could get a cinema screen projected on your ceiling and we could all send you our best vids and dvds?

tigermoth · 11/09/2004 09:35

What a lot to cope with, ggglimpopo. I hope you can get lots of rest and the messages here reassure you. Is Rhubarb still with you?

coppertop · 11/09/2004 09:46

Sorry you've had to go through all of this. Best wishes. xxx

JanH · 13/09/2004 17:52

gggl's computer crashed just after she sent her message so she hasn't seen any of your lovely replies yet - she is hoping to get online this evening - anyway you'll be glad to know that the babe is hanging in there! She is still having contractions but feeling fine herself

WideWebWitch · 13/09/2004 21:13

ggglimpopo, just wanted to wish you all the best too, so sorry about your fil.

Heathcliffscathy · 13/09/2004 21:22

ggglimpopo, i really hope that you are resting and not on mn because you are horizontal...i'm so sorry aobut your fil and for you having to deal with all this at once. whatever is happening to you, hope you are ok and wish you lots of love x

stupidgirl · 13/09/2004 21:37

Nothing to add, but just want to send some (((hugs))) your way. Best wishes.

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Heathcliffscathy · 13/09/2004 21:57

god you sound so calm...you are incredible!

emmatmg · 13/09/2004 22:02

Blimey.......what an awful time you've had.

Agree with other, its' VERY important that you rest, can the children watch TV on the bed with you or read story books, board games. Sorry I don't know how old they are, but could this give you time in bed?

Best wishes to your family and take care of yourself.