Unplanned pregnancy

[Rupert1996]

Hello all, found out I was pregnant a couple of weeks ago so should make me 6 weeks now, really not sure what to do me and my partner would children but he just doesn't feel as though it's the right time as he isn't happy in his job and wants to be doing something he enjoys before thinking about children, and I have only been in my job just over a month... hearts telling me to keep and my head is telling me to terminate as do not want to put pressure on us both😔

Oh my goodness bless you. I had a similar situation my partner and I weren’t even together when I found out. He initially told me to get rid of it. But later calmed down and said he’d support me if I wanted to keep it which I did. And now we are happily together with pregnancy half way through.
Go with your heart! There is no guarantee you will naturally conceive again after abortion and this has been known to damage future fertility in some cases.
Your boyfriend if he is a man should man up and accept his responsibility to your child. He is 50% responsible after all. Who cares if he hates his job? It’s not all about him anymore and there’s nothing to say he cannot change jobs while you are pregnant.
There is rarely a ‘right time’ in life to have a baby.
Do you have others to support you besides him? Parents, friends, extended family etc? Have a chat to them I think you might be surprised how supportive they will be. And if your partner is not providing this much needed support then try to find it elsewhere!
Xx

I had a termination 2 years ago an I still cry about it today; I’m about to
Give birth any day to my second pregnancy

There really is no right time btw.

I recommend not doing it if you aren’t sure. I still cry about it every night. It really sucks.

Just from what I’m erasing I don’t think you should

I’m saying this because I don’t want people makin the mistake I did and feeling how I do, I can’t ever change it & it’s something I’ll always regret and be sad about. I terminated at six weeks and was early
About it so I thought I could do it but all I feel now is that I miss someone who is supposed to be here I never got to meet & that’s mydoing. I feel like a piece of me is gone & it always will be. Don’t make the same mistake

Everyone is so different so there’s no one size fits all answer but I don’t think you will ever regret having your baby. I wasnt living with my boyfriend when I found out I was pregnant. 3 years on, we are married, living together, pregnant with no2 and have a gorgeous crazy boy. Best thing that ever happened to us. Timing is never ideal but if you have support from your partner then you can work through the rest. Good luck with your decision, only you can know what’s best xx

The only way abortion harms future fertility is if you get an infection that isn't treated properly. The risk is low.
www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/womens-health/can-having-an-abortion-affect-my-fertility/

From your username I'm making a guess you're 23? You have lots of time to have kids in the future. Neither decision is wrong here. I've been fortunate enough not to have had to make this choice, but I know those who have, who abortion was absolutely right for, they have no regrets (both times, and they are now a happy parent).

You still have time to make your choice. Would writing out all your thoughts and feelings help? It can be really hard when it's all in your head, and even talking with your partner, as you're both trying to get your head round this. Is there someone else neutral you can talk to about it? Friend, or parent?

My pregnancy wasn't planned either, in 5 weeks so just behind you. My partner and I discussed it and he was worried about money and space but those things will sort them self out in the end. My partner also isn't happy with his job, but I've encouraged him to do what makes him happy, and I know it wont effect us having this baby.
Let's be realistic, there never is a perfect time to have a baby, so maybe give him some time and talk to him again about it again? Maybe he will have calmed down? Good luck.