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9 Weeks and Terrified

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Holz27 · 30/03/2019 08:24

Hi Ladies
I’m 9 weeks pg and losing the plot. Last year I had a mmc - baby died at 9 weeks and we found out at 13 weeks at scan and had ERPC. I had total loss of all symptoms (although they were always very very mild and I never had any nausea) but it wasn’t a shock at the scan - I instinctually knew that it would be bad news.

Took a year to get pg again, and this time I had more significant symptoms throughout the first 8 weeks, nausea, exhaustion, headaches, mild cramps, sore boobs etc. This week symptoms have totally gone and I’m sure the same thing has happened again.

I had my booking appt. on Thursday and explained to the mw and she just asked if I wanted to carry on with the appointment or just leave it! And said that there’s no way I’d get an early scan. I’ve booked a private scan for Tuesday evening.

Please tell me this doesn’t have to mean the worst 😔 I don’t want to go through it all again.

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Newyearsameoldshit · 30/03/2019 08:42

I'm so sorry for your miscarriage and everything you had to go through.
The odds are that everything is fine and I hope your private scan can put your mid at rest and help you enjoy your pregnancy.

I'm not sure why the midwife asked if you wanted to just leave the appontment, seems strange and would have hoped they would be a bit more reassuring.

It is not unusual to start feeling better at this stage as hormones settle and the placenta starts working.

Hope tuesday comes quickly for you x

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Holz27 · 30/03/2019 08:47

@newyearsameoldshit thank you for replying. I just have the horrible feeling again and mw didn’t even try to reassure me. She ended the appt. with “if everything goes to plan maybe I’ll see you in May!”

Thanks for your reply x

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Newyearsameoldshit · 30/03/2019 08:52

Gosh, she sounds like she could work on her bedside manner! Perhaps she was going for light and breezy and missed the mark somewhat.

Have you got some nice distracting plans for the weekend? x

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Holz27 · 30/03/2019 09:02

Not really.... got a house full for flippin mother’s day tomorrow 🙈 but the sun is shining and that always makes everything better 😊

Hopefully Tuesday will come quick and whatever the outcome I’ll just have to deal with it, it’s better to know I guess x

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Ambs81 · 30/03/2019 09:14

Sorry for your loss last year and how you’re feeling now xxx I totally get it
I had a miscarriage last year, at 8 wks, luckily I did get pregnant again quickly but I really struggled to deal with it for first months.
Everyday I was retesting, constantly knicker checking, googling all sorts, I was just sure it would happen again.
I had a scan at 8weeks at hospital- I didn’t go through midwife I just rang the team that dealt with my mc and they scanned me.
That made me feel a lot more at ease and believe that things could be fine..
The nhs couldn’t do my 12 wks scan until 13wks so I had a private scan last week. My friends think I’m crazy with all the scans but they make me feel better and more positive.
Sorry your midwife wasn’t more supportive

Spargle · 30/03/2019 09:23

Ugh - that sounds horrible. I’m so sorry your midwife was so thoughtless, and not reassuring.

Obviously, as a stranger on the Internet, I have no actual answers. What I can say is that it is common in healthy pregnancies for symptoms to disappear at this kind of gestation. Mine reduced a lot occasionally at 9-10 weeks, and I did a lot of Googling (including many old Mumsnet posts), and they were very reassuring for me.

Also, I know that you just knew that something was wrong last time, but a lot of women just know that something is wrong, and the something turns out to be them - it is very common to know there is a problem when there isn’t. So you were right last time, but that doesn’t mean you will be right this time.

Also, pregnancy mostly seems to be about worrying, from what I can see. Every stage feels like it will eradicate the worries, but in fact it just brings new ones. My baby is far enough along to be viable, so of course my main worry now is that I will interpret a reduction in movement as a quiet day and my baby will die as a result. Such fun!

Sending you all of the luck and good vibes. There is a very good chance indeed that this is just normal variability, and everything will be fine. I really hope that your weekend is not too trying, and that your scan on Tuesday provides you with some reassurance.

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Holz27 · 30/03/2019 09:28

Thanks guys, you’re making me feel a bit better 😊 fingers crossed all is ok x

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Rhiannon87 · 30/03/2019 10:25

Can we be scared together? Im 7 weeks today and absolutely bricking it. Woke up this morning without the sore boobs and reduced sickness.

To be fair, worried sick and I don't have a midwife appointment for another 3 weeks. Im trying to think positive, but this is my first and I dont know how Im meant to feel.

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Holz27 · 30/03/2019 10:49

Yeah we can
Such a worry isn’t it. I think if anything, I’ve learnt everyone’s experience is totally different. So what might mean bad news for one person, could be totally normal for another, so there’s really no “normal”

Everything crossed for you x

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Spargle · 30/03/2019 11:00

Just to be the bearer of confusing news, some people have really terrible morning sickness even though they have already had a MMC. It can last for weeks afterwards. Which is to say, the symptoms don’t actually mean anything. They come and go in early pregnancy, even when everything is perfect.

Yes, morning sickness is reassuring, but it doesn’t necessarily mean anything. Yes, losing symptoms is scary, but it doesn’t necessarily mean anything.

(Also, reduced sickness is a welcome break you can’t quite manage to enjoy before it returns, then you kick yourself for not enjoying the respite. I have been there. Not my favourite time.)

It probably isn’t possible for you both not to worry, but it is most likely that everything will be fine for both of you. Sending positive thoughts and much sympathy for the worry!

FineFanks · 30/03/2019 16:43

Good luck for Tuesday. You won’t know for sure until then, but try to stay positive.

Please do come back and update us xx

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Holz27 · 02/04/2019 07:40

Scan is at 6.45pm tonight. Still no symptoms have returned. I’ll let you know 🤞🏻

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HalfBloodPrincess · 02/04/2019 07:56

Hand hold for you.

I had a mmc last April - baby didn’t make it past 7 weeks and I mc at 11+3.

Lucky to get a bfp in September, dating scan was booked for when I was 11+3 on what would have been my due date. Symptoms went at about 9 weeks. I took all the coincidences as a bad omen and was almost hysterical going into my scan, but everything was fine and I’m now 33 weeks pregnant.

I remember sitting in the waiting room looking at all the happy couples about to go in and being so jealous of their excitement, as I was just fraught with worry.

Wishing you lots of luck 🤞🏻

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Holz27 · 02/04/2019 08:12

HalfBloodPrincess this has given me a little inkling of hope x

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LoisLittsLover · 02/04/2019 08:14

Good luck for tonight xx

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Holz27 · 02/04/2019 08:15

Thank you x

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HJWT · 02/04/2019 08:34

@Holz27 Good luck with your scan! I lost all my symptoms at 9 weeks and had a bleed but baby was still in there! 💐 FX

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Holz27 · 02/04/2019 12:49

Thank you 😊 feeling very sick at the moment with worry! X

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MrsMozartMkII · 02/04/2019 12:54

Everything tightly crossed lass.

Newyearsameoldshit · 02/04/2019 20:02

How are you Holz? x

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Holz27 · 02/04/2019 20:28

Sorry we got stuck in traffic on way to the scan and we’re an hour late! Luckily they waited for us.
8 weeks and 6 days and everything looking good apparently 😀 can’t believe it and not going to get too excited yet, but better than we could ever have hoped for!

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twotabbies · 02/04/2019 20:51

So pleased for you OP! Easier said than done but now try to relax a little. I had a miscarriage in between my 2 DC and I know how worrying it is... just keep on keeping on and fingers crossed you'll have a smooth ride to the end!! xx

MrsMozartMkII · 02/04/2019 20:55

Excellent news lass!

aweedropofsancerre · 02/04/2019 21:23

lovely news.....hope all goes well with your pregnancy going forward

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Holz27 · 02/04/2019 21:31

Thank you 😊 will be keeping everything crossed x

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