first time mum 20weeks, struggling with emotions 😥

[Procter2019]

Im 20 weeks into the pregnancy now, however im struggling with emotions and feeling really low and don't no why. I have spoke to my oh but he says i will be fine and that it's supposed to be a happy time. But that doesnt help how i feel. I have been unwell nearly every day of my pregnancy, from mild things to bad things.
Anyone else feel this way or how to cope?
Many thanks

Sorry i can't really offer any helpful advice as haven't been in this situation, though I'm sure it is normal. Pregnancy is an emotional time.

I'd suggest speaking to your midwife about it

Yes, do tell any health professionals you see how you are feeling and I am sure they will be able to offer some help. It can be an odd time... I was sure I felt fine in my first pregnancy, but DH says I seemed in such an emotional, het-up state in the final weeks that he was really worried what I'd be like as a mum, and I don't recall feeling anything other than fine and happy. So the hormones, and simply the emotions of the thing, really can get to you, but all the same, do get whatever help you can.

Speak to your midwife. It could be a hormone imbalance or something they can help you to manage. Don’t suffer.

Assume you’re trying all the natural remedies for cheering yourself up? Plenty of fresh air and exercise?

Now is the time to indulge yourself in the things you enjoy... whether that’s a series, chocolate, early nights with a good book, etc.

I walk my dog when feeling rubbish, she enjoys the extra walks :) Hoping to join a gym for swimming soon at weekends, just need to find others to go with.
Thank you i will speak with my midwife, i feel like im the only one but i know im not. I love my baby and bump, just wish i felt like other mums during their 2nd trimester. Also dont think my oh realises how annoying it is when he keeps telling me how big im getting or look at that fat belly 🙄..

'Felt like other mums'. Trust me, a lot of other mums feel like you! I was pretty miserable throughout, to be honest. Got better in third trimester though.

Sorry to hear you are feeling down. Pregnancy can be very tough, especially if you have been unwell. In addition to speaking with your midwife, also make sure you are getting good nutrition. Lack of vitamins or a poor diet can affect your mood tremendously. Also, exercise and fresh air are great too, but it sounds like you are already getting that.

Sorry, I don't have much advice to offer other than what has been said already, but just wanted to say I think certainly not every mum feels great in the second trimester and you shouldn't feel like you're alone in this. I haven't even had a lot of physical trouble so far but still feel quite low much of the time. While I'm sure some women genuinely enjoy all of pregnancy I think for most of us it is not JUST a happy time, it's exciting and wonderful but also difficult, scary and uncomfortable! The expectation (of you and dh!) that it should all be bliss is unrealistic and will just make you feel worse.

@Procter2019 i feel the same. I'm 21 weeks. I've been constantly poorly throughout and not enjoyed it at all although our baby was very much planned and wanted etc so I feel terrible for feeling like I'm not enjoying it. I'm just trying to tell myself I'm not enjoying feeling unwell. I love feeling baby move and have started to look forward to buying bits x