Still not excited

[Aimily]

Hi, I'm just looking for some advise.
This is my first pregnancy, I'm 6 months along, due in July and I'm still not excited.

For as long as I can remember, I've wanted to be a mum, really looked forward to having my own baby. But now I'm faced with the reality of actually having a baby, I don't feel anything, I'm not excited, I'm not scared, it doesn't even feel real to me.

I'm not sure if I built it all up on my head and now that the dream is a reality, it's completely underwhelming for me. My other half seems more excited about it than me, yet he is usually the one that's so calm about everything.

I just want to know, is there anyone else who's felt like this and when did their excitement kick in?

Thank you in advance.

Gosh, are you me? I could have written this word for word except I'm due in August. I am really detached from the pregnancy for a number of reasons - I think because it's something we wanted for a long time and we were beginning to think wouldn't happen for us that I'm afraid to get too attached in case something goes wrong. There's a big dollop of self-preservation. I actually don't understand how people can feel excited about it! So, not hugely helpful, but I do totally get it.

I don't feel quite the same but can relate to some of it- I do feel excited sometimes but it definitely doesn't feel real. I do picture a baby/child as I've been picturing that since before we started trying, but I can't fully comprehend labour and giving birth, actually caring for the baby like I would with any other event or life change. I've been planning and buying loads and it still doesn't quite feel real.

Much like @mynameiscalypso we were starting to think it wouldn't happen for us or if it did, it would be through IVF which we would have started next month, so I think that's a big part of it.

Despite this- I do feel bonded with my baby, we call her by name and the kicks remind me she's there. It's just hard to make the connection between this little wiggly thing inside me and the viable baby she'll become.

I wouldn't worry too much. Excitement is a short term thing and I don't think anyone can be excited the whole 9 months anyway! But even if you never feel it, I don't think you need excitement to be over the moon when your baby is born :)

I’m still not overly excited at 36 weeks!

Thank you, it's nice to know I'm not the only one.
I have spoken to my mum about it too (finally) We're very close and have an amazing relationship, I usually talk to her about everything but this was something I haven't been able to articulate too greatly.
Apparently she felt the same, she did have bursts of excitement with movement and other later pregnancy milestones, but things didn't feel overly real with either pregnancy until she was handed myself and my brother.
So I do feel calmer and less worried thanks to you all and her 😊

I could have written this although I am far behind you as due in October. Everyone around me is like oh u must be soooo excited, oh what a wonderful time and blah blah blah. I feel very little, even when we heard the heartbeat, saw the little one moving around. Sick of people telling me I should be feeling amazing and excited and all the other stuff. I'm not depressed, not sad, just indifferent but sadly can't talk to anyone of my friends or family as they seem to think its a given that I should be over the moon

I could have written this post a few weeks ago. I never really became attached to or excited about my pregnancy, even though it was planned! I think part of that was because I have previously suffered losses, so a big part of me was expecting it to end the same way my previous pregnancy had (miscarriage at 12 weeks). Also, I don't think I quite fathomed that there was an actual baby growing in there! Even the day before I went into labour, I wasn't overly excited. I was terrified that meant I wouldn't bond with baby when they were born.

Well, my DD is now almost three weeks old and I absolutely adore her and couldn't imagine life without her ❤

This is comforting to read!! I feel exactly the same and I don't know how to explain it

I could have written this too! I’m due in August but I feel the same. I hope I get excited soon. I just guess I don’t like pregnancy much.

So, an update for you, I spoke to my midwife today and blubbed, I tried to explain how disconnected I'm feeling and unexcited, she said to me that clearly I feel something because I cried, and I'm normal, and I'm hormonal and my oh has to give me some TLC. He bought me chocolates and were spending the night looking at baby names 😍 we will find a girls name we agree on... Maybe

Thank you for posting this, also due in July and can relate to a lot of this. Good to read and hugs to you. 🍩