Believe I am miscarrying

[Confused38]

I’m not sure if any read my first post (new to site and confused) but after 12 days of what they thought was implantation bleeding I have now been experiencing fresh blood with clots and back pain and tummy cramping for 2 hours or so. This is my first pregnancy and no previous miscarriages or pregnancies. We had a scan Monday to check due to bleeding.... I really thought this was going to be a reassurance scan as the midwives were not concearned but could sense my anxiousness. From my last period I should be 11 weeks but the scan on Monday showed only 6 weeks. We really wasn’t expecting that. Exspecially since I had no pain at all. The dr said I could be 6 weeks and my dates are wrong or I could be miscarrying but they will only know when I go back on 1/4 to re scan.
So I now believe I am having a miscarriage I’m not going to go to hospital I really do not know what they can add. The pain and blood is manageable ( just like a period) so I guess I will sit it out and be re scanned Monday and I imagine we will then have confirmation

@confused38
Firstly I’m so sorry you are in this pain and you are going through this.

When I had my first child, I had started my periods when I was 3 months pregnant, these continued through out my pregnancy. This very well could be implantation bleeding.

Unfortunately I suffered two miscarriages last year, one at 7 weeks and 3 days, bleeding came out of no where and was very heavy and painful. Second miscarriage in August, I had bleeding throughout (generally didn’t know I was pregnant as I was bleeding) until I was around 4 weeks and done a test, went go as had very little spotting, something just didn’t feel right in my soul. I was referred to the hospital due to light cramps and bleeding when I was 7 weeks pregnant, baby was still alive but heart beat was irregular, was sent home and told to expect the worst but another scan was booked for a week later, for days after the first scan I was in crippling pain, couldn’t walk and bleeding very heavily, I had miscarried.

I know on both of my miscarriages they were extremely painful, especially considering I had given birth with no pain relief previously I was quite shocked at how painful it was. (they may not be for everyone however.)

Are you having any cramps? If so are they lower stomach? I would see how you go, unfortunately as you are so early there is not much a hospital can do which I know is upsetting.

@pixiedustandluck

Thank you for sharing with me. I have some low ( pelvic area) dull ache that comes and goes. Not sharp intense... I normally get really bad period pain and cramps but this isn’t as bad as that but is definitely noticeable considering I’ve had no pain up until today. I am using a wheat bag but am wondering whether it’s ok to take some painkillers? Like paracetamol ?
I’m sorry I really am new to all this. I know nothing about babies or pregnancy.

Sorry to hear this.
Yes, take some painkillers if you need to.
Lots of TLC. Take care.

@confused38 I think you are well in your reason to be worried and anxious, definitely take some paracetamol, this will not cause any problems with your baby.

It’s so hard being a first time mum and when you’re pregnant all these feelings are new and scary. You don’t know if something is normal or not. Try not to panic to much, I know that is a lot easier said then done. Try to rest, have a nice warm bath it may ease your pains, sending you lots of hugs xx

Thank you @pixiedustandluck
I managed to sleep quite well after paracetamol and a wheat bag warmed up and a nice bubble bath.
Still bleeding fresh blood but clots seem to be going/ not as many. I’m going to spend some time in the garden with my dog as it’s sunny and warmish. Pain is now not as bad as last night.... not enough to need paracetamol.

Fantastic news to hear you are no longer in serious pain. Try to keep a positive mind until your scan. Is it a morning scan or afternoon scan? Will someone be attending with you? As it is nice to have someone with you, no matter what the outcome

@pixiedustandluck
It is an early afternoon appointment and my husband will come with me. I will update Monday after scan xx

@Confused38 not got any advice hun but fingers crossed for you 💗

@confused38 so happy you will have your husband going with you, it will be an emotional no matter what the outcome. Sending you much luck, try to stay positive, we’ll as much as one can in your situation.

No advice but hope it all goes ok

@puxiedustandluck
just wanted to let you all know I was taken into hospital on Thursday and have had a complete MC (miscarriage). I lost a lot of blood it was a horrendous experience I have never been pregnant before. I’m at home now and taking codiene and still bleeding but a lot less. I feel weak and can barely walk. My saving grace is that it all went so I need no further intervention. This whole Experian e had really made me wonder whether I would want to get pregnant again. I feel at peace.... I knew 5 days before that I was probably having a miscarriage and I had grieved before the horrible turn of needing to go to hospital. I thought it would continue as it had for the previous 5 days and thought I’ll tough it out at home and have a scan Monday and it’ll be gone. Nothing could have prepared me for the pain or amount of blood that came pouring out. I couldn’t walk or stand. I was very scared.
I was very annoyed at my MIL (mother-in-law) who seems to think that she knows how I feel. She was almost shocked when I said we had both come to terms with it in the days prior to the actual event. There is nothing we could have done differently, we are both healthy and take regular exercise and we don’t drink or smoke so it just wasn’t meant to be. My MIL (mother-in-law) thinks it just hasn’t ‘hit us yet’ and said losing a child was the most devastating thing in the world. I further annoyed her by suggesting it was an embryo not a child and that I didn’t think it was her place to comment on how I might be feeling as she had never been through this before and hasn’t lost a child so she has no experience of either. Is it normal to feel ok with this? I feel I have been made to feel like I am not ‘normal’ in some way. I did grieve and cry just days before. My husband has been a huge support and we have both done a really good job of looking after each other.

@Confused38 as I am so sorry hun! Your MIL sounds like a C U N T and I am glad you put her straight! Everyone feels and grieves different with every loss...

Please don't let this hard experience put you of having a baby! I Hope you feel better soon 💗

I did the exact same. Grieved when I suspected I was having an MC, but had come to terms with it when a week later it was confirmed. Everyone copes differently. MiL is probably projecting how she thinks she would have felt, or extrapolating from 2nd hand information (stories from friends, TV program). I think she means well, so I would let it slide.

Sorry you've gone through this and thoughts with you for the rest of your recovery.

My first and second pregnancies ended in m/c. The 2nd was very early and just like a heavier period tbh.
Very few people who speak to you at this time will say the right thing!
However you are feeling right now is valid too.
Very many first pregnancies miscarry, as I found out later, but it doesn't mean it would keep happening or that this would mean you couldn't go on to have a baby at a later date.
You don't have to make any decisions about the future right now, my advice would be to be kind to yourself right now - you've had a difficult experience.
Sorry for your loss.