Pregnant after a blighted ovum, anxiety

[Hayley220]

Hi everyone!

I’m 5 weeks pregnant but so anxious as my first pregnancy was a blighted ovum. Around 2 years since it happened, on our first try we got pregnant. I just feel so unbelievably emotional and down, negative thoughts in my head because a blighted ovum is all I know. I have booked a private scan for 6 weeks and 6 days. Last time I miscarried naturally and lost a lot of blood and was admitted to hospital. It’s really sad, I don’t feel happy at all which I can’t understand, as all I have thought about in the last 2 years is.. what pram will I buy, will I have a boy or girl, how would I decorate their nursery. And now I am pregnant again I just feel depressed, as though I will be repeating what happened this time 2 years ago. I’m also terrified of being sick, and have emetophobia. Basically, anything that I can worry about, I am!

I don’t really know why I’m writing this post.. just need to know I’m not alone I guess. If I do have another loss I will feel like there has to be something wrong with me!

Hi OP
You poor thing. It’s awful isn’t it. I’ve been through the same thing.
I had a blighted ovum in December 2017, and went on to have a very long, drawn out miscarriage.
Though can i just add that I got pregnant again in April 2018 and am now cuddling my 11 week old son.
Unfortunately, after a miscarriage, or other loss, it taints every pregnancy with anxiety and fear.
I never even dreamt that I would go through anything like that before I got pregnant in December. After I did, it was all I thought about. And I was convinced that every pregnancy I had would end up the same way. I was very lucky that it worked out for me as there are people that go through it over and over again.
But there is also hope. I never imagined I would be cuddling a little boy exactly 1 year after I lost my first.
I also booked a private scan at 6+4 weeks with my second pregnancy and got to see my sons little heartbeat. It was a beautiful moment to know that I was carrying a real live baby but unfortunately, the anxiety comes back quite quickly again because then you start to worry about a missed miscarriage. I booked at private scan at 9 weeks too because I didn’t want to get to 12 weeks and find out something bad had happened.
But then you reach that point and there are other worries. Honestly it’s never ending. Once you’ve been through a miscarriage I’m afraid it does ruin the excitement abit.
I wish you all the best x x x

Hiya, like the lady above I had a blighted ovum last summer at 11 weeks and had a painful drawn out miscarriage. Ended up needing a medically managed procedure in hospital. I was told by the consultant not to try for 2 months after as my uterus was weak and got pregnant again in October. Am now a couple of days off 24 weeks pregnant and have been a bit panicky all the way through so far. I had an early scan at hospital at 6 and a half weeks and saw the heartbeat and that was really helpful. I’ve had a hard time separating the two pregnancies and was in tears at the first scan thinking it wasn’t going to work again.
Really hope it works out for you and keeping everything crossed Have found people don’t tend to talk about blighted ovum’s and the shock of it much and it’s so heartbreaking x