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30 weeks pregnant with 3yo- utterly exhausted

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RC000 · 26/03/2019 14:28

Just wanting to vent and seek out others feeling the same or who have been through it.

30 weeks pregnant and feeling utterly wiped out. Work part time in active job and other 2 days with DD who is 3. Pregnancy insomnia and mild anaemia (have been prescribed ferrous fumerate) may be contributing but I am a worrier and getting a little panicked about coping for another possible 10 weeks (or longer?!) DH works long hours in week and family not close. Currently watching monsters inc with DD and feeling like a bad mother. Also nearly cried earlier as going uo the stairs made me feel so tired?! This preg is so much harder than the first time.

Do I need to get a grip?

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HonniBee · 26/03/2019 14:32

I'm right there with you, though am hitting my limit slightly sooner. 26 weeks with a nearly 3 year old and utterly wiped out.

Pregnancy insomnia too, and I suspect anaemia but will get checked by midwife when I see her in 2 weeks.

I have no grips for you, but can certainly commiserate!

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RC000 · 26/03/2019 15:11

Thank you for replying @Honnibee reassured it's not just me! Just finding it very hard then I worry about how tired I am! Hoping when weather is better things will improve too?!

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Starsandthemoonx · 26/03/2019 15:13

know the feeling I'm 30 weeks pregnant with baby no 3 got 5 year old and 4 year old and at university 3 days a week! utter exhausted now

SunnyScot89 · 26/03/2019 15:20

Yup, right with you here!! Im only 28 weeks, with an almost 3 yr old and exhausted. DH is great but has been so busy doing DIY stuff in order to get the house ready for the new baby. I feel like I never get any time off. My back is constantly sore and I just have no energy to do anything. Felt like crap the first half of the pregnancy and now this... when do I get to start enjoying it?? Can't believe I have another almost 3 months of this..... Sad

AmateurParents · 26/03/2019 16:57

Oh my goodness! I could have written this!
This is literally me right now!! I am 30 weeks preggers with a 3yo and literally have no idea how i am going to cope the last 10!!! My body is exhausted, tailbone is killing me, can't sleep, at the end of the day gravity is a bitch and is pulling my GIGANTIC bump down, ribs/stomach muscles feel like they are ripping apart.
Everyone I see is like 'omg, you are about to pop aren't you'. No, no i'm fucking not, i still have 10 fricking weeks left of this shit, thanks for reminding me!!!! I FEEL your pain!

Shazafied · 26/03/2019 17:04

Thought I’d join in ! Am 34 weeks and have a 15 month old who doesn’t sleep ! I was working 3 days a week and planned to work till 37 weeks but had to finish at 33 as I was on my knees. My 15mo is like a whirlwind, very very active and into everything. Very much a dare devil at the moment so needs constant lifting / monitoring. I have spd though this has eased a bit since stopping work.

Honestly it is so so so much harder this time. Think I got 3h broken sleep last night between going into My daughters room and getting up to wee. I found out today I have a uti so hopefully will start peeing less often soon !

By the end of each day I’m a tearful mess and my husband has to help me to bed. I was meant to have family visit this weekend but have had to them not to come.

My dd was horn at 38 weeks and I’m hoping this baby is similar as pregnancy is so gruelling this time.

If it helps, a few people I know have said that having a newborn and a toddler is not as hard as being heavily pregnant with a toddler ! Xx

NannyPear · 26/03/2019 17:21

I'm 34 weeks and feeling similar!! If it helps, I've felt a bit better the past couple of weeks and at 30-32 I really struggled to keep my eyes open. It could have been the low iron and the tablets may be helping (though I'm not amazing at taking them...). Have a full on 2.5 year old. MIL has booked last minute flights and is coming to stay with us for a couple of weeks this weekend. She adores DS so I can't wait for a bit of a break!

Fraula · 26/03/2019 17:24

I had the same. The only upside of that when the baby's born, your energy will be different and you'll probably feel much better, despite wakeful nights! I found pregnancy with my 4th unbearably exhausting. Especially the stairs!! Stop feeling guilty about tv time, it's so needed. Lie down and feet up. Make sure there's nothing dangerous in the room in case you dose. Sorted.

Gillian1980 · 26/03/2019 17:36

I’m right there with you Flowers

30 weeks, 3 1/2 year old with unlimited energy, working 4 days a week in a tiring job with lots of travel.

Due to work another 5 1/2 wks and then have 3 weeks off before a section at 39 weeks, if all goes to plan. Very anaemic and iron tablets are just kicking in.

Insomnia, restless legs, morning sickness, heartburn, constipation and piles etc etc. I feel so blessed and lucky to have dd and ds on the way, but me and pregnancy do not mix well. No more for me after this one!

I feel like I’m no good at anything at the moment.... useless at work, useless at pregnancy, useless as a mum to dd, useless at household stuff lol. Don’t know whether to laugh or cry 😂

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RC000 · 26/03/2019 17:37

Thanks all - reassuring not just me! Also going to cling to the 'it will feel easier with a newborn and toddler than being heavily pregnant with toddler'

Due date just seems so long away!

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Shazafied · 26/03/2019 19:13

About an hour ago my 15 mo escaped during a nappy change and, with a still shit smeared arse, climbed onto the sofa and started bouncing about on her bum (laughing hysterically). Her slow moving creature of a mother could not get up in time to stop the madness and now has to strip and wash all the sofa covers instead of sitting down!!

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RC000 · 26/03/2019 19:27

Oh god! I would normally suggest a small glass of wine! Or loads of chcocolate!

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Shazafied · 26/03/2019 19:58

Went for the chocolate !

Sunshinegirl82 · 26/03/2019 20:57

I completely get it! I'm nearly 34 weeks, DS is nearly 3. I'm still working 3 days a week in a stressful job with a long commute. I'm at home with DS the other 2 days.

DS is really good for a 2 year old but he wants me to play with him constantly and I feel bad keeping him at home all the time so I'm still trying to keep up with soft play/park visits.

I'm absolutely knackered. Everything aches, I have hideous heartburn and can't walk more than about 100 yards without being in a lot of pain. Only 1 more week of work, really can't wait!

Let's just hope the toddler plus newborn combo is easier!

SockQueen · 26/03/2019 21:09

Solidarity! I'm 30 weeks tomorrow with a delightful but HARD WORK 2.5 year old. His sleep has been messed up since our holiday last week and I'm feeling broken. He's very affectionate and wants cuddles all the time, which is sometimes lovely but picking him up repeatedly is hurting my back and my abs are totally knackered! He's probably watching more TV than is really good for him at the moment, but I just can't face doing much more. Even soft play is out as he has a tendency to rush into a bit that's too difficult, then yell for me to come and help him, which I just can't now I'm so whale-like!

Blaigeard · 26/03/2019 22:36

Feeling miserable over here! I’m 34 weeks, working full time and have a 3 year old. This is my last week at work as cannot go on any more. Back is killing me and all I want to do is just lie down and sleep until the baby comes. Wishful thinking!

NannyPear · 26/03/2019 22:56

It's finding stuff to do with the toddler that's difficult. I find if I spend a whole day in the house it drags in so badly. He's not a sit down and do some arts and crafts type of child AT ALL. Usually it's just a day of me trying to stop him from jumping on the bed before he falls off and breaks his neck. But the likes of soft play and even the park are difficult, as he demands I do everything with him. Soft play isn't built for pregnant women, funnily enough.

TrixieFranklin · 26/03/2019 23:27

Me too Grin I'm only 26 weeks but my twins are turning 3 in a few weeks and I'm fucking pooped Blush

Teanocoffeethanks · 26/03/2019 23:33

Ahhh. I found i had more energy in the morning. The only thing that got me through the days off with my 3yo was us both going to bed and him watching the tablet next to me for 30 mins ish. Even if i didn't sleep it was just enough rest/lie down time until dh came home.

HalfBloodPrincess · 27/03/2019 07:26

No advice but adding some solidarity. I’m 32 weeks and ds is 1yr 9months and I’m struggling!
Heartened by comments that it’s easier with a newborn and a toddler than being pregnant with a toddler.

TrixieFranklin · 27/03/2019 11:18

Kids are at nursery all day and I only had 1 work appointment first thing so I've got between now at 5pm all to myself, I don't know whether to have a long sleep, long bath or what to do! The house is a tip so probably should sort that but the bath..

RafflesMaidenSister · 27/03/2019 17:09

Also here with solidarity. 30 weeks, 18 month old, full time job, anaemia. I J U S T W A N T T O S L E E P.

Hope some of you are feeling better that yesterday!

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RC000 · 27/03/2019 17:50

The solidarity is making me feel better! And less weird for getting teary!

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RC000 · 01/05/2019 15:50

How is everyone doing?

I am 35+4... lots of braxton hicks and been told baby is massive (5lb at 32 week scan) so another growth scan just before 38 weeks - definitely playing on my mind and don't want to go over!

Hope everyone doing ok!

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TrixieFranklin · 01/05/2019 16:06

Only 32 weeks but my god I'm feeling it now, by this point last time I was able to nap when i needed to and just sit quietly and eat when I needed a minute to myself and I really really miss that this time round Blush I'm pretty sure by now I'd nearly finished my desperate housewives box set too.. good times!

We've been and bought a 7 seat bus car today as we don't think 3 year old twins, a new born and 2 adults in my little Citroen C3 is going to be a good idea after all..