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Will your hospital tell you the sex?

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mother2b · 11/07/2007 07:42

Was just wondering because the hospital i am using and those near to me wont tell me the sex?
so if i wanted to know i would have to pay for a private scan

not fair as im sure people around the country get the choice to know the sex or not, ive been told that they wont even hover over it and let you figure out for your self

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chopster · 11/07/2007 07:45

yes both hospitals I've given birth in did. I've heard of it being withheld in areas where there are cultural biases against girls though. Could you get a private scan done?

hotcrumpets · 11/07/2007 07:46

our hospital won't either, we had private scans with both of them

sar123 · 11/07/2007 07:46

It differs from area to area. The hospital I was at did offer to tell us, the one my sister was at in a different part of London has a policy not to disclose sex, as did the one my best friend was at in north london. Did you ask them why their policy is not to tell? They tend to have valid reasons for it. Do you need to know the sex, or just want to know?

FlameDelacour · 11/07/2007 07:49

Ours keeps changing - it didn't for DD, then it was for DS (I had 2 mins to decide if I wanted to know or not - where they hadn't offered it before I hadn't even considered what I would do!!)... I think they changed back to not telling a few months after that!

Bibis · 11/07/2007 07:56

Coleen

does it really matter? I didn't find out for numbers 1 and 2 and didn't feel deprived by not knowing. They never used to find out when my mother was pregnant with me.

ps if you are going to put your scan on your profile, take your name off it!!

hippmummy · 11/07/2007 08:06

Hi m2b

As people have said it does vary around the country, some hospitals do and some don't.

But don't let it make you so sad and angry. Bear in mind that even in those hospitals that do tell (or indeed if you go for a private scan), you may not find out on the day anyway if the baby isn't lying right.

I can say from experience (we found out sex with DS1, but not DS2) that the scan was more fascinating and I paid attention to the health of the baby so much more when I wasn't focussed on finding out the sex. And the surprise at the birth was wonderful .

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mother2b · 11/07/2007 08:10

i dont mind people knowing my name
the hospital i will be having my next scan at (because the hosp i had my dating scan at only do dating scans and emergancy scans) is in a city with alot of different cultures living in it.

lmao, you made me jump when i saw my name, i thought it was someone who knew me and had been following my post

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Pheebe · 11/07/2007 08:14

I thought they were obliged to tell you now if you wanted to know regardless of where you were but that you had to sign a disclaimer saying you know its not 100% accurate??? Thought it was some new rule from the government...will try and find where I read that for you...

LittleLupin · 11/07/2007 08:20

Our hospital does not tell you because they had a problem with people aborting girls

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mother2b · 11/07/2007 08:20

just wanted to know what colour scheme and what clothes to buy

i really REALLY want a boy and i spose im justy too impatient to wait nearly 23 weeks

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LittleLupin · 11/07/2007 08:24

go for white/cream/yellow. Bear in mind a) the baby will outgrow the first set of clothes pretty quickly! and b) if you have a large baby, he/she may not fit into the tiny stuff. My niece went straight into 3 months stuff!

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mother2b · 11/07/2007 08:28

TBH i really like the cream and brown decor any way and think regardless of the sex would prob still have brown/cream bedding

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FlameDelacour · 11/07/2007 08:33

Have DH/Mum/Best Friend on standby to go and buy the right sized clothes in the right colour - go out a bit before you are due with whoever is shopping, and show them the outfit/set of sleepsuits that you have fallen in love with in each sex. They can then get it for you

For DD I had been convinced she was a girl, I took to hospital neutral stuff and one pink stripey babygrow I had been given "just in case" DS I only had girl stuff (left over from DD), but Psychomum turned out a load of little boy stuff for me and sent it round

Pixiefish · 11/07/2007 08:34

ours do. I didn't find out with dd but due to having an amnio this time I have found out ( felt I wanted something after the traumas of the amnio )

When I had the scan I told the sonographer that i knew what I was having and she said so did she So I said but sometimes scans can be misleading can't they and she said not this one- as clear as the nose on your face

Anyway I have heard of women aborting the baby if it's the wrong sex so i spose in some areas that's why they don't do a reveal. I also know of a few people who were told it was a boy and it was a girl- the umbilical chord was lying funny

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mother2b · 11/07/2007 08:37

my mums convinced its a boy and she bought these tiny little booties which are the softest material and are BLUE, they say 100% mischeif on them

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Stefka · 11/07/2007 08:55

My hospital don't reveal the sex either. I don't think I would have found out anyway though it would have been nice to have the choice.

I am amazed at how many baby clothes are gendered! Surely there must be lots of parents who don't know the sex of their child before it is born.

JARM · 11/07/2007 08:59

Ours doesnt tell either, and good job really because at my 20 week scan on monday the baby was crossed legs like a little buddha!

We are paying for a private scan in august so we can find out, more for convenience as after 2 girls, i need to know whether to keep the outgrown pink stuff or sell it to fund blue!

TrinityRhino · 11/07/2007 09:03

a hospital in plymouth wouldn't tell me when I was having dd1 because too many people of certain cultures aborted when they found out they were the wrong sex

MuffinMclay · 11/07/2007 09:46

My hospital won't tell you either (big Asian population, girls aborted). I'm going to have a scan done privately instead (£150 at local clinic).

MamaMaiasaura · 11/07/2007 09:48

Apparntly the consultant at my hopstial doesnt like to but the midwifes/sonographers will tell us.

LieselVentouse · 11/07/2007 09:49

They have signs up saying it is not our policy to tell the sex so dont ask. I asked anyway and they told me. I think its your right to know what your baby is

ggglimpopo · 11/07/2007 09:50

In France you have to say if you don't wish to know as they will automatically tell you...

LieselVentouse · 11/07/2007 09:52

GGG meant to say thats lovely news Im so pleased

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mother2b · 11/07/2007 09:52

i got told that If you ask at the hospital (Peterborough) they get really stressed out with you???

i had thought about bribing them (do you recon it would work, and would be less exspensive than a private scan)

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LittleLupin · 11/07/2007 10:09

ggg, do you know what flavour baby you are having then?

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