Just would like to talk

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Hello,

I'm 21 and a trainee teacher in a primary school. I'm having a pregnancy scare. Ordinarily, my cycle is 24/25 days but I am currently on day 28. I think it is still too early to take a pregnancy test but I would just like to talk to someone about the what-if! My cycle is occasionally irregular, but the only regularity is the PMS in which I become a vile human being (sorry to everyone around me). So far I have had a couple of crying moments for no apparent reason, but no PMS. My skin is a bit worse than usual but nothing unmanageable. My main reasons for thinking I may be pregnant include: late period, extreme hunger and thirst, needing to pee a lot, bloating (although this could easily be period related if it ever comes), I'm very very tired, I have some lower back pain too which is unheard of for me, I had a couple of dizzy spells earlier in the month, I'm hot all the time and I've had some emotional swings - from being very high energy to completely exhausted and teary for no reason... I have no sickness and my boobs feel totally fine.

I think I may be worrying for no reason but I don't know how I feel about this. If I were pregnant, I would definitely keep the baby - I'm not against abortion at all, it just isn't an option for me. However, I live at home on a very low wage and am not in a stable position to become a mother. I know my mum would be very supportive but I don't want her to think about it unless I am pregnant and so until I know and am 100% sure I want to keep it to myself. My boyfriend is great and I know he would he come to terms with the situation if I were pregnant but I also don't want to worry him - he isn't ready for this either and would need time to adjust. I don't want to worry him for nothing.

I guess that brings me to the possibility. I think it is possible that I could be pregnant although still unlikely. Birth control does not agree with me so haven't been on the pill and we did have sex without a condom but he did pull out. As I said, unlikely, but possible. Nearly all of the time we do use a condom, but we were silly that time. I'm beginning to wonder if my worrying about this is prompting me to look out for pregnancy symptoms and maybe my worry is delaying my period. I can't be sure. I'm terrified to take a test. I do also have a cold, maybe my body feels a bit unwell for a period at the moment.

I hope everyone is okay - H x

Get a FRER (First Response Early Results). They're the most sensitive test on the market and should be able to pick up a positive by now. I get why you're scared to take a test, but at least once you know you can do something. At the moment you're in limbo. Good luck. 💐

That’s really helpful thank you. I’m so scared but I know I need to check. X

Whatever happens, it sounds like you have a great support network. You will be ok.

If you buy it today, it's best to test with first morning urine if you can wait that long. The hormones it's looking for are stronger then so you'll have a more accurate result. Good luck.

I actually read that online, I did buy one today, will do it first thing in the morning! I’m waking up early needing to wee constantly anyway! Thank you for your help. I do have the best family to help me x

So....
The urgent need to wee woke me up at this lovely hour of the morning and of course I couldn’t go back to sleep knowing what I needed to do. The result is negative, my legs are still shaking from the nerves! I’m mostly relieved, but a bit shocked to find that I’m a bit disappointed too. I got a pack of two tests and so can take another in a few days time if I still don’t have my period. I guess the plan now is to try and go back to sleep - although I’m not sure how easy that’ll be. Thank you for your help. Sorry if I wasted your time! X

I’m finding this a good place to keep a note of everything that’s happening. I still have no period as such, but this evening there is some very dark discharge which of course could be the beginning of it - especially considering it’s accompanied by cramps and some tenderness. Still none of my usual PMS. It still feels like a waiting game, despite the negative test result... I still have another test yet to take, but I want to wait to see if the ‘spotting’ (I think that’s what it’s called) develops into my usual menstruation. X

How frustrating for you that you still have no clear answer. Maybe with speaking to your GP if AF doesn't arrive today? Sorry you're going through this.

AF has arrived but it’s extremely uncomfortable, a lot less blood than usual for day one and a lot of numbness- I seem to have lost a lot of feeling. Still have a extreme thirst and need to urinate a lot. I’m largely just very emotional right now. Can’t get an appointment with my GP at all, will have to try again tomorrow x

That sounds horrible, poor you. Keep at them at the GP. Sounds like you need to get to the bottom of this.