Anxiety clingy over husband

[Ell012018]

Hi all, I just wanted to see if anyone is experiencing this weird feeling I keep getting. I'm due 14th July and this will be mine and my husband's first baby.
I find myself being overly anxious about my husband's welfare and I constantly worry about him and that something may happen to him. I worry about him in the mornings when he goes to work and I worry about him when he goes out on a rare night out, like In the back of my mind im waiting till he's home safe... I know this sounds quite sweet really, but Im finding it quite difficult coping with this type of feeling.. I do remember having it as a child and I do also get it about my whole family but majority of the cucooness is about my husband

I have had this in this pregnancy, constant anxiety about DH and whether he's ok and worrying that he will become unwell. I convinced myself he was losing weight and got him to weigh himself every week to check he wasn't!

This is DC2 for us and I can only think that it's the worry of how I will manage with the new baby and DS and that if DH was unwell I would have to cope on my own and look after DH. DS was a rubbish sleeper so I kind of know I might be in for the same again and it will be tough with 2! My dad passed away suddenly last year too which I think has given me a heightened awareness/anxiety around health.

It's strange though because I have absolutely no concerns or anxieties about my own health, even though I had PE in my first pregnancy and was quite poorly.

You're not alone OP. Anxiety in pregnancy is quite common and I think it just latches in to something. I am 33 weeks now so hoping I can get to the end and then see how I am. If you've still got a way to go perhaps worth speaking to your midwife for some support?

My DH has quiet a dangerous job and is out is signal most parts of the day. I have terrible anxiety that I can’t get hold of him and I do worry.
It’s completely normal, but it doesn’t make us feel any better!

Having exactly the same thing. Due in July and have absolute paranoia that something will happen to my husband. Apparently this is quite normal as I spoke to mum/sister and it’s because for the first time you’re about to be a family unit rather than just a married couple. I said to him the other day “ring me when you get there” and he looked at me as if I’m mad. Though I have noticed he’s being a bit the same with me! So I think we’re both guilty.

Thanks girls. You've made me feel not so screwy! It's nice knowing it's quite normal! Wishing you all the best with your pregnancies

I’ve had a certain amount of anxiety about my husband’s health and safety for quite a while. I think it’s just that I naturally have tendencies in that direction. One thing I sometimes find quite helpful is the Find Friends app on the iPhone.

We both have iPhones (I don’t think the app can work otherwise), and can basically see where the other one is almost all the time we have signal. It means that when he goes somewhere, I don’t have to worry if he doesn’t text me on arrival - I can just look and see if he’s at his location, changing location regularly (I.e. still driving there) or sitting still on the motorway (aka probably dead because car crash) (totally not catastrophising) (hasn’t happened yet).

It obviously only works if you’re both happy to share your location with each other at all times. A lot of people think that it’s really strange that we effectively track each other sometimes. But it has made me not worry on so many occasions, and it saves him a lot of hassle remembering to text me and upsetting me when he inevitably forgets.

I also have my sister on there. She’s only betrayed my location to my parents inappropriately once (family get-together - I hadn’t bought a birthday present and was late but at the local shops - double-whammy of ticked-off parents!), so it’s all good! She’s a student, and it’s good to see that she got home safely at night (when I actually think about it!), and to know when it’s a good time to call her (not when she’s at uni!).