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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

34 Weeks with ADHD partner

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Cloud1991 · 17/03/2019 21:24

Maybe this is the wrong place to put this but I need to vent.

My partner and I got pregnant after two months of seeing each other, I knew him as a friend beforehand but I considered him self-centred, we both went through horrible break ups and he was really there for me, but during pregnancy the first three months I was viciously sick and we fought constantly, asking him to make me a cup of tea was meet with "I'm busy blah blah blah",! The following three months were marked by bad hormones, plus he left his job to start his own business and he's had a shit tonne of stress, he mostly won't listen to me and just heeds what my mom says (We live with my parents) so much so he told her he wished I could talk to him like she does!

He's hopeless with money, I've been trying to get baby stuff sorted since after Christmas while he's away buying fucking equipment for his business becasue thats apparently how he's going to make money I've been hearing this excuse from 12 weeks! He expects that someone will just loan him the money for baby stuff, I've ended up buying most of it myself, he gives me money when he has it but also loans money from me and doesn't pay it back, when things are tight everything is 90% on me. He can go and have few drinks I can't even go and get my nails done. I've come to a place where I lie to him just hang on to what I have. I cook for him, do laundry and clean the house, things he only does when The moon is BLUE. Not to mention my parents won't tidy after themselves either! I'm an almost 8 month pregnant slave.

What really really hurts is my bff is around 18 weeks with her frist baby also and her partner treats her like a queen! While mine isn't mean at heart but is just so selfish. I'm fed up and thought that I'd be treated better instead no one gives a fuck and feel so unloved, I have to bring my little baby into this bullshit, it's like I'm the only adult in this situation.

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PatriciaHolm · 17/03/2019 21:49

Look - he's not your partner, he's someone you had sex with and are now stuck with because of pregnancy. If you weren't pregnant would you even be with him?

He's not going to treat you like a princess. I'd be making plans for single motherhood to be honest.

MissMini · 18/03/2019 03:42

He does sound a bit selfish but I guess when you describe the circumstances around how it all happened it makes more sense - not that I think it’s an excuse, it takes two to tango. I’d speak to him and explain the priority is baby and he needs to get on board if not for you, for the baby. I’d also talk to my parents as it doesn’t sound like they’re helping things? Hope everything works out one way or another and you and baby are ok.

Stacy1066 · 18/03/2019 05:21

My partner is the same sometimes most of the time he can be such a pig but when my babies were born he was different we still have days when i feel so down not to mention my little 7 month old has so many health issues and a baby on the way as the pill clearly did not do its job all you can do is really talk to him put it as blunt as possible shape up or get gone he will soon realise what's important hope you feel better soon x

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