Scan at 11+3 not good news .... petrified

[Donnat89]

Hi all ,

I don't even know where to start .

I am 30 years old and pregnant with my 3rd child , I have to healthy children and had normal pregnancies with both

I went into the hospital for my scan at 11+3 and the news wasn't good it was found that my babies NT is 8mm and there is signs of skin oedema .

Baby is growing and right size for dates and was very active ... this made things worse as I could see this little baby who they tell
Me is so sick kicking about

They have told me my baby has a 65% chance of a chromosome abnormality... so we have opted for the CVS

They were not able to do the CVS this week as I have an inverted uterus and the baby is laying in front of the placenta .

I have to go back next week when I will be 12+3 to see if they can do it

I am so upset and scared and the uncertainty is killing me

I'm scared they still won't be able to do the test next week and that means more waiting

I'm trying to be positive but I feel like I'm going mad with worry and have spent hours
On the internet .

I do not really know what I am after , I would like to hear from people with both good and bad stories and from anyone that's been through this

I just don't know how to feel or what to do right now and it's killing me

I don't have experience of this but it sounds so hard, especially the uncertainty and the waiting. Easier said than done but the internet can bring more worry than it does reassurance so maybe when you feel like you want to Google, come up with something else you can do instead. In tough situations I've tried to get lost in a book or some other story to remove myself from the situation while I can't do anything about it, though that can be hard to do when you keep coming back to your own thoughts - which is fine and normal. You are strong and you will come through this.

@xtinak thank you for your reply .

Yea I'm trying I work full time plus have 2 children so I'm ok when I'm busy but it is constantly on my mind.

It's the first thing on my mind the minute I wake up and the last thing before I go to bed

I am lucky I have very supportive partner and family and friends but it is just so hard

I have come terms with the fact I could get some very bad news and I know it will be hard

But I just don't know how to feel I want to be prepared for the worst but I'm
Still hoping for the best .

I'm hoping over the next few days it will get easier and il worry less . Or at least not feel as if I'm going mental

Of anything I suppose il do this thread and keep my journey updated just in case others find go through the same thing

It is hard . And I never ever expected this .