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Private sex scan. Worth the money?

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Mum2be1993 · 13/03/2019 20:49

What are your views on a private sex/gender scan? I found out at my 20 week scan that we are expecting a girl. The thing is my cousin was told this a couple of years ago and well she was in fact a he! My OH said he saw 'girl bits' in the scan and said he could see 'a slit' sorry if thats a tad crude. I didnt notice anything but i was in shock because i was so sure it was a boy! OH also asked the sonographer how sure he was that it was a girl and he said he was 99% sure. Her legs were also open so not sure if anything was hiding. Is it worth paying £40 for a gender scan to put my mind at ease? Thoughts please. I dont want to get my hopes up with pretty dresses etc for it to be a boy.

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lelrx · 13/03/2019 20:56

I had a gender reveal after a private scan at just over 16 weeks, we popped the balloon to find out we was having a little boy
Fast forward to our 20 week NHS scan who said that actually it was a baby girl, we returned to the private place who confirmed she is actually a baby girll

lelrx · 13/03/2019 20:58

Did they give you any pictures of that area, with a boy it's quite blatantly balls in between the legs but girl it's usually 3 lines x

fauxhuman · 13/03/2019 20:59

Why on earth does it matter!?

Blondiecub0109 · 13/03/2019 21:01

We had no choice as our authority won’t reveal gender. We waited quite a while though (23 weeks) as my husband was away with work so booked it as something to look forward to. I had a wobble when I found out it was a boy (more from a u have no idea what to do them perspective) but no I couldn’t ever imagine having a girl. There was no doubt at our scan the screen was filled with meat and two veg! The great thing about the private scan was the time the sonographer took explaining everything and measured his growth etc plus we got all the measurements and a load of pics with us.

NannyPear · 13/03/2019 21:07

We had one at 16 weeks with both. It was nice to get a confirmation at 20 weeks at the anomaly scan. I will say though that both were boys and it was extremely obvious! I guess if your baby was in a good position as you say then maybe it's not necessary, but if you have that niggling feeling in the back of your mind then I'd say just go for it! Always nice to see baby on the screen again regardless 😁

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Mum2be1993 · 13/03/2019 21:11

Nothing looks obvious on the scan photo. I think because i know of someone this has happened to i feel a bit worried. I would still be equally as happy with a little boy but i dont want to get lots of nice girly pressies etc from people only for it to be a boy! Im driving my OH insane!!

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Crossfitgirl · 13/03/2019 22:27

Yeah get a private one.
Sounds like you're worrying about it etc.
So pay the 40 quid and stop worrying!

We had a gender scan at 16 weeks, got right up between bum cheeks and she showed us 3 little lines that were basically the labia = little girl.

I knew they aren't 100% but I specifically asked the sonographer to explain what we were looking at before revealing the gender, let us guess, then explained what we could see after. This helped a lot!

So the idea is, if our 20 week scan also says girl, we're fully confident it's a girl.

Totally get being anxious to be sure. We found out for planning, as if it was a boy we'd have been able to have lots of hand me downs and wouldn't have needed to plan to get as much stuff as we have lots of friends who've just had boys!

No such luck, we have to buy cute little girl stuff, what a shame 😉 xxx

lelrx · 13/03/2019 22:48

I was quite sure I was having a girl and had read about scans being wrong then when it said boy I just accepted it but had read loads on them being wrong and mothers being so sure they knew that they got the sonographer to double check, looking back I wish I had now but I just trusted what they said
If you're in doubt double check xx

RayaJambalaya · 13/03/2019 23:05

I had a private scan at 18 weeks to find out the sex. Didn't want the worry of not finding out at 20 week scan (they said we'd only find out if they had time and the baby isn't always in the best position.) plus my 12 week scan wasn't a nice experience in that the the hospital stressed my OH out and he was acting weird and the midwife was really unfriendly and made me feel uncomfortable.

The private scan was lovely and we got to see the baby on a massive clear screen and got big lovely photos of our baby girl

Parker231 · 13/03/2019 23:12

Why not just wait for the lovely surprise when they are born?

Triskaidekaphilia · 14/03/2019 00:25

We were told at the 20 week scan that baby seems to be a girl but the sonographer didn't sound 100%. We are going to assume it's a girl, but will get a 3d scan in a few weeks which the site says can confirm the sex very accurately! Because if we've been telling people wrong I'd rather correct this in a few weeks rather than after they're born!

Kescilly · 14/03/2019 00:27

I’m glad we did a private scan as the NHS was not able to tell us at either of the two scans we had around the 20 week mark. Can’t be sure the private scan was right though!

Triskaidekaphilia · 14/03/2019 00:33

Oh, the sonographer mentioned the 3 lines though so if that's quite a clear sign then she was probably more certain than she sounded :)

SleepingStandingUp · 14/03/2019 00:54

If you can afford it, then get it just so you're happy you know but "put my mind at ease" and the pp who said they "had no choice" but to go private is all, imp, ott.

MummaBear2Be2019 · 14/03/2019 01:19

I had a private scan done at 18+1 and was told that it was not 100%....until she done the scan and we could see quite clearly he is a little boy!
Fast forward 2 weeks to my anomaly scan and again, i was told with no uncertainty that i am infact having a baby boy 😁 Im now 20+2 and excited that i can start getting his little outfits etc

happymummy12345 · 14/03/2019 01:26

I wouldn't but I'd never ever want to know until the birth anyway. I think it's much nicer to wait and find out when your baby is right there in the room, rather than when all you have is pictures. But that's just me. If you want to then go for it. (Most do)

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