Confused - Partners an ass!!

[Newmama123]

Hi ladies
So I'm new to this and a first time mum. I just wanted to get a better understanding of whats normal and if I'm expecting too much of my partner.
I"m 15 weeks with our first baby 😁. I always had this image in my head that he would be this doting person but Its the complete opposite. At first things were fine, but for the last few weeks he has become stroppy, critical and does nothing to help me. I am naturally an independent person and actually feel ok but the offer of help would just be nice to hear. I don't so much as get a cup or tea. I get accused of being miserable, he shouts and slams doors. Sometimes he runs off to his mate and doesn't come home till morning. to be clear he has never been abusive toward me and I don't feel unsafe but I find myself in tears on a nightly basis. So I guess my question is.
Is this normal? Has anyone else experienced something similar? I just don't know what to do I want things better before baby comes as this is no enviroment for a young child. Any advice is appreciated 😥😔

You'll have to sit down quietly with him and see what's bugging him, won't you?

Ive tried talking to him. I get told to shut up or to just get on with it. He blames me but won't take any accountability. I just find myself second guessing how i feel now. Wondering if I'm being overly sensitive.

Did he make you cups of tea or help out much before if you are independent?

In the nicest possible way, if not - then I don’t really see why been pregnant should change this (unless you are really struggling)

Running off to his mates and shouting/slamming isn’t on and that needs addressing but are you actually projecting a miserable attitude if you are festering over him not offering a hand?

This all probably sounds a lot harsher than it sounds in my head, I can’t quite describe what I mean. I think attempting another calm talk is needed.

Does he actually want a baby? Is he scared of the responsibility?

Suddenly becoming stroppy and critical and storming out of the house and staying out all night is not normal, no. Doesn’t sound to me like you’re being overly sensitive, he sounds like an arsehole.

Speak to him?

Did he want a baby or was this mainly you ?

The slamming of doors and telling you to shut up isn’t ok