I need help!!!!

[Hipchick1989]

Hey everyone,
So I found out today I'm pregnant, I had no idea apart from being late and having very sore boobs, so did a test (which turned into 3) managed to get into the doctors and here I am about 5 weeks pregnant.
I have never wanted kids, it's never been anything I've wanted, it's just not a life I'd choose for myself I'm not maternal or have kids in the family etc. I've had very bad luck with men and it's just never happened anyway. I met my current boyfriend 2 months ago, I have never clicked with someone in my entire life like i have with him and were really in love, he doesn't want children either. So I told him earlier after it was all confirmed, and he wants me to get rid of it, I actually dont know how I feel i have to admit i got excited and started looking at clothes and pushchairs etc, but he doesn't want it. Now I dont know what to do, if I keep it I'll be on my own, how can I work and look after a baby, with no financial support, or if I get rid of it and stay with him I could regret it forever. I'm 30 this year and feel like it could be late to want another in the future. I'd really appreciate help I'm still in shock and scared.

I don't really have any 'advice' as such just wanted to say that whatever decision you will come to you will be ok (although there will undoubtably be times in either scenario when you'll feel like it won't be). Having a child is hard. Ending a pregnancy is hard in a very different way. Whichever decision you come to try to let it be an empowered one rather than a fear-based one. Sending you a massive hug xxx

That's really kind thank you xx

Why would you not have financial support l, OP? Is he self employed? I had a baby by myself, and so far so good.

I believe everything happens for a reason and maybe this baby is something that's meant to be in your life! It might be the best thing that you never realised you needed until he/she is here! Best of luck with everything

What advice would you give a friend in your situation? It sounds like youre definitely in two minds OP. Maybe do some reading an research and see how you feel about all options. Have you got anyone close you can confide in?

Echoing the sentiment that it will all be OK, one way or the other. The good news is you're 5 weeks not 25; you've got time to think about what you want and to come to an unhurried decision without feeling rushed into a termination (if that's what you decide) because the clock is ticking. Obviously it's ticking a bit but you don't have to decide overnight!

Make the decision for you, not for your boyfriend. And 30 is but a spring chicken in the grand scheme of things – this isn't the last-chance saloon, for love or for babies.

Oh gosh. Massive hugs too. I hope you can gather your thoughts and come to the right decision for you. Raising a kid is a long, hard road. I think kk66 pretty much summed it all up. Only you can know which way to go. Do you have someone you can talk to? Perhaps the BPAS helpline?