34 weeks pregnant, toddler, i can't take it anymore!

[hugelypregnant]

Hello, I just to write this down. I'm sorry if I annoy anyone.

I feel incredibly sad. I feel stupid for being sad, incredibly stupid and like I'm being a burden. I hate to moan to anyone in real life incase they think I'm struggling.

I'm 34 weeks, I was made redundant from my job as a retail manager 6 months ago so I'm stuck at home. (No one wanted to employ a pregnant woman with hyperemesis, and I can't really blame them!)
I have a 2 year old (November born) who's in the most challenging stage ever along with potty training. She's more like a moody teen and a 2 year old!

Husband works 5 days a week 9am-9pm, sometimes more, he pays for the mortgage and all the bills so I feel completely useless (I was lucky and am entitled to MA so I have something coming into my bank again now so I help with the food shops)

I've tried and tried to keep up activities at least 3 days a week with my daughter but I've gone huge all of a sudden with excess water and have sciatica (in my bum)

Can't turn to my mum or sister (big back story, narc mother, abusive when I was a teen so limited contact)

The midwife came today and out of no where I just burst into tears, and 3 times since. For no apparent reason. I don't ever cry. I feel so stupid now, I feel like she thinks I can't cope.

I just want to be able to move and walk and eat without feeling sick. I want to get up without feeling like someone's stabbing my bum over and over. I feel so big, My face and arms have gone all chubby. I was 9stone and I'm now 11.

I've done this before, I was 21/22 last time and it was a relatively easy pregnancy.
I'm nearly 25 now and I feel 85.

I just want to feel brighter and useful again with energy.
Is there any thing I can do or take to give me more energy in the final month or so before baby? Was your second baby harder in pregnancy and does that mean you'll have a harder birth?
Once you've given birth does the sciatica pain just go???

Sorry again for having a moan.

Sending 💐 your way! I’m 33 weeks and starting to get to the end where you feel so big nothing seems possible. Working and have a 6 year old. We are on the home stretch at least! Can’t offer any advice other than I’ve started drinking peppermint tea that stops me from feeling so bloated in evening and iron tablets that help me sleep better xx

32 weeks pregnant here with a July born 2 year old. I'm absolutely knackered. First day of mat leave today and I have just slept constantly. DS is in nursery 2 days a week until April (I'm technically on annual leave now and nursery will need to take a back seat when I go down to ML income). I have so much to do! This time in my pregnancy with DS I was practically done with having everything prepared, this time round I've had zero time to do anything with a toddler to look after. He's super clingy (always has been), terrible sleeper, been up at 6am every morning... It's so hard. And I sympathise hugely. Starting to worry about how I'll cope with a newborn and a toddler!

can’t provide much advice, I’m only 9 weeks with my second but I am dreading the later stages of pregnancy. In the first pregnancy I had awful awful hip pain at night, particularly the last 2 months. I couldn’t sleep AT ALL, I was exhausted. Not sure how I’d cope if this happens with my second and I now have my very demanding toddler. And we are moving house in a few months time

Stay strong, only a few weeks to go x

Hey, don't be hard on yourself, I'm 34 and I'm 37+1 I also have a 2yr old and a 1yr old and even as I write this in rowing with their dad because I shouted at my 2yr old this morning.

My god she drives me nuts sometimes and has been hard work all last night and all day today. That dad doesn't live with us but is very opinionated for someone that does nothing day to day stuff 🙄

Anyway, this stage of pregnancy is hard enough as it is on our bodies our lives and day to day activities. Its exhausting. I broke down crying earlier too. I also don't speak to my family only my sister and I don't like to bother her she's always busy.

About a month ago I too broke down in front of my midwife I told her I didn't know how I was going to cope in my own woth a newborn 1,2,12 and 13yr old lol. I told her that I was the only person that wanted to keep this baby even though everyone else has now cone round but the closer it gets the more I panic about not being able to cope. She was really good to be fair she didn't judge she asked me if I wanted extra support or if there was anything I needed. The truth is that week my 2yr old had been waking me up all through the night to tell e up my things like her brother was asleep or the moon was out etc. I was exhausted and the midwife came at the end of the week and I just broke down.

Talk to your midwife they won't judge you their used to seeing it and hearing it please don't keep it in x

@hugelypregnant sending lots of hugs! I'm in a similar boat - 36 weeks and have a 2 year old who (is absolutely amazing) but has become a mini teenager over night!! And having some out of this world tantrums.

DH works away a night a week and is in after DD1 goes to bed a couple of nights which I find so hard! Can't imagine how you are doing it all on your own 9-9 every day you must be going stir crazy!!!

I've got DD1 in nursery for a couple of days a week at the moment, is it an option at all for you to have a childminder or nursery for a few hours to give you a break?

I've also been absolutely knackered and am now on iron tablets which have seemed to help slightly.

there's light at the end of the tunnel and you're nearly there now. Keep your chin up. I would try and sit down as much as humanly possible, don't stress yourself out going out the house as much (I don't know about you but that's when DD1 really plays up) and try and lie down when your toddler does.

Hope things get better for you!!! Sending lots of love xxx

@hugelypregnant oh and I had the sciatica with my first. And it cleared up days after I had her. I had a CSection and it was honestly more painful than the scar. Was so relieved when it went! Have you been referred to physio? Xxx