Anyone else's DH really unsympathetic?

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I'm 7 weeks pregnant and really tired, achy and nauseous, my other half literally has zero sympathy, I can tell from the way he talks to me and treats me when I mention feeling ill that he just thinks I'm being lazy and over exaggerating how sick I feel. If I ask him to do anything for me he will do it but he sighs and hugs and puffs about it and makes sure I know he thinks it's a hassle.

I don't remember him being as bad as this when I was pregnant with DS and from what I've heard through his mum/sister he wasn't like this when his ex partner was pregnant with their DD.

This was a planned pregnancy, so i don't think it's that he's unhappy I'm pregnant. I get the feeling that because he works full time he thinks I should wait on him hand and foot. I don't mind doing all the housework and cooking as I am at home all day and I actually enjoy doing it but he asked this morning for a full cooked breakfast and I said to him that I was feeling too sick to stand there doing a fry up so he'd have to do it himself if he wanted one and he got in a strop about it, and just ended up eating nothing... like he would literally rather starve then just do something for himself.

Just makes me feel like he really doesn't care about me.

Anytime I bring this up to him he will totally deny his behaviour and insist he's the best most thoughtful partner in the world and I've got him all wrong. Feel like I'm going mad... does anyone else's DH/DP act like this?

Yes! He sounds like a classic narc type personality to me- my dp is the same. Ive had (and still have) recurring depression and anxiety since DC2- basically if i get out of bed its an accomplishment during these low periods- so any house work/errands is a bonus. 3rd pregnancy here and my old friend has returned at the worst possible time. He can be so insensitive and zero tact, uaing passive aggresiveness and comparing me to "mate from works wife" who has tea done and ready waiting for him with open arms and a foot rub. Callsme lazy on a day i have zero interest in washing his dirty pants and socks or moving his crap he leaves around the house. He complains the house is a mess at the slightest crumb on the floor and acts like a baby over-exagerating getting the hoover out uncoiling it and faffing around to clean up one crumb. Then proceeds to sit down sweating like hes ran a marathon!! As if i havent done anything all day! Im lucky if i can remove my self from the toilet bowl at this point im nearly 7 weeks too ♡ youre not alone OP i think its just arsehole husband syndrome - they really know how to milk their man flu but heaven forbid you let on you have morning sickness as well as depression- the nerve! sending hugs OP. When are you due ? Im due 29th Oct :)

Some men just don't get what we really go through. My hubby is the same much wanted baby after 2 losses I know he loves us both dearly but doesn't show it at all and gives me no sympathy when I'm sore or achy (31 weeks) he doesnt touch my bump either because she kicks him and scoops out which he thinks is weird haha. Most men are like this until baby is actually here x