expecting no 2 lots of questions.

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please help me lay some thoughts at rest.

firstly I have no exact idea how far I am. got a pos last w/e. I think i'm about 6 weeks ish. (obv need to get to the dr's to confirm everything/have a scan etc)

but, how do you cope with more than 1? how do you cope on such little sleep? will I love the second as much as DS - I know that sounds so stupid but will I? will I ever have 'proper' pg symptoms that arn't just a slight sicky feeling and a touch of hormones (crying first thing cos i'm still tired and DS is awake early) will I get excited about no 2 as i'm not right now. is the birth going to be as bad/hard as last time? so many questions that prob no one can answer. and prob all silly, but i'm so worried that thing's are not going to work out - i'll hate the new baby/DS will hate his sibling/i'll not cope.

anyone else feel the same at all?

Everything you are feeling is perfectly natural. My biggest fear was not being able to love my second child as much as my first but you do! Your heart swells with so much love you will not believe it! Keep talking to us and good luck! xx

thanks butty - really I jsut want a good slap round the chops and to be told to get on with it! lol. i'm not sure how much is it's not hit home yet as i've been away from DH this week, and how much is denial/carrying on with a 'oh it's something else for me to deal with type thing' hoping once i'm back home and with DH everything will come into ti's self again - with DS I was so overly hormonal from the day dot this is quite un nerving.

You will cope because you have to and you run on a lot of adrenalin until the worst bit is over,

you make sure you sleep when you can.

You will absolutely love dc2 as much especially cos they look so teeny and vulnerable compared to ds,

am sure you are having proer symptoms my most obvious one was being really tired and then not being able to sleep when i got to bed.

Will be excited but maybe in a more personal intimate way, dd1 was for everyone, dd2 for us and ds just for me, share him occasionally but not often.

Can nearly guarantee the birth will be better shorter and easier than last time, you have paved the way.

i felt all the same fears but was too scared to ask anyone

how do you cope - you do. The baby is a doddle compared to last time, the hard part is the toddler. But the whole experience is no worse than the whole experience last time, IYSWIM

sleep - how old is your ds? either get them both to nap at the same time so you can sleep too, or train the older one to have a "rest" after lunch - on bed in room with story tapes

love - comes with the baby, you'll be surprised

pg symptoms - enjoy the lull before the storm

excitement - maybe, I'm pg with no 3 and I'm too knackered to be excited but I prob will when I can feel it kicking!

birth - what was the first one like?

sibling - ds is going to love/hate/like his sibling. I felt sorry for my dd when I got pg with ds - ousted from precious-only-child. But now I feel sorry for her because she had all that time without a sibling, and I think ds is lucky to always have had a sister

You'll be fine. Doesn't help that your hormones are going haywire though, does it?

thanks girls, it doesn't help no! lol.

DS is 16 months - will be around 2 (ish) when pip is born. my other fear is baby will come on DS's birthday. he currently has 1 nap p/d sometimes an hour sometimes 2, normally in the am but can be pm if we're up late - i'm a lax mummy! lol.

don't curse me re the lul b4 the storm with DS I had 1 day of sickness and that was that and I think that was only from a migrane.

with DS actual labour was about 10 hours, waters went erm 8 hours before thou I think - labour came on literally the one morning (didn't have any BH's) and he was born by the following. but I had an epidural, episotimy, an hour's worth of stiches and a vontouse, this was the thurs, fri some stupid silly dr gave my an interanly and wondered why I was sore - silly woman. anyhow had a blood transfusion, DS was in the light box thingy/had to have 2 lots of blood taken. only good thing was the food (for a change!) lol. still BF went v v well. hoping to do the same again.

thanks for your reassurance cal. it helps just knowing i' not the only one who's felt/feeling this way.

I've just had no 2 and my experience so far has been good. I'm not finding the sleepless nights as hard as last time. I've not found any problems loving two children rather than one. The biggest challenge is helping my eldest to adjust to a sibling. He is full of excitement and energy which is resulting in rather lively and sometimes inappropriate behaviour. He called the midwife "smelly socks" yesterday!