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Pregnancy worries

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tryingtobeok · 07/03/2019 12:26

Hi, I'm new here . I'm quite scared that I'm pregnant.

My last period was the 6th of February and my cycle usually varies from 27/28 days, well its now the 7th of March and I've still not had my period.. if I use online calculators it tells me I'm 4 weeks pregnant which confuses me as I had sex on the 29th, 30th Jan, 2nd and 3rd of Feb before my last period, which was normal, so if I am 4 weeks then how could I have still had a period?

My boyfriend and I started to use condoms initially but he doesn't want me on the pill and he doesn't like the feeling of condoms and so was simply using the 'pull out' method .. I feel very stupid I know. :(

On 4th March we had unprotected sex and I had the morning after pill on the 5th, the pharmacist asked if I could be pregnant already and I said no.. I took the pill and then realised later on in the day that my period appeared to be late, now I'm really scared, I took a test with an Asda's own pregnancy test this morning that said negative but I am just confused..

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Melamine · 07/03/2019 12:34

Sorry to hear about your worry. Unfortunately the morning after pull doesn’t work I’d taken after you’ve ovulated. But if you didn’t have any sex between 3rd Feb & 4th March, it’s unlikely you’re pregnant (unless you ovulated EXTREMELY late) and if you’ve taken a test on the day your period is due and it’s negative then chances are that you’re fine. Stress and worry can delay a period!

Echomama · 07/03/2019 12:35

Just sounds like a late period.
Pregnancy is calculated from the day of your last period although you usually conceive two weeks after your period.

Use protection. Don't let a partner tell you what protection to not use, it's your decision.

Saoirse1 · 07/03/2019 12:39

Please stop using pull it out, im not having a go but i got pregnant that way and now have a 4 month old. We were ready though we didnt mind if it happened we just werent planning it, you obviously are not ready you need to get yourself on the pill i dont know why he doesnt want you on it?

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tryingtobeok · 07/03/2019 12:43

Hi everyone , thanks for all of your replies ..

Melamine - we did have sex quite a few times from February 3rd onwards up until this month... Sad

Echomama - thank you..

Saoirse1 - he doesn't want me on the pill as he says it will make me too hormonal, like his ex used to be when she was on it..

In hindsight and by writing all of this out I can see I've been naive..

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Saoirse1 · 07/03/2019 12:54

Well its not really his choice its not up to him to dictate what kind of birth control you put in your body. Most women have good experiences with the pill, it can make some people quite hormonal but its not extremely common, i find i dont like being on it and would prefer to use the copper IUD. Have you ever been on it? The likelyhood is that it will agree with you and to be honest, pregnancy will make you FAR more hormonal than thw pill ever will.

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tryingtobeok · 07/03/2019 13:44

Well I suggested to him about the copper IUD and he wasn’t impressed with that either. Can’t win really..

I’m confused if I’m going to end up pregnant, I can’t talk to my mum about these things or anybody else :(

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GabbyGal · 07/03/2019 13:56

I don’t like the sound of your boyfriend’s attitude/behaviour one bit, he sounds quite controlling. I’d be concerned that this is early-stage reproductive coercion, which is a form of abuse.

I think it’s more likely that your period is just late, but unfortunately there’s nothing you can do about it until you either get your period or a positive pregnancy test. In the meantime, please go to your GP and discuss your contraception options. As PP have said, most women are fine on the pill. But there are lots of other options if YOU (not your boyfriend) don’t want to take the pill.

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tryingtobeok · 08/03/2019 10:43

Thank you, ive never heard of that before.
My breasts were hurting a lot during the night and I was getting cramps low down..

TMI.......

I woke up this morning and there was a pink sticky spotting in my my knickers, had nothing since.

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PBobs · 08/03/2019 11:35

Your boyfriend sounds awful. There's no way you should let anyone dictate your contraception. Take another test in a couple of days - hope you get the result you want - and then please reconsider your relationship.

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tryingtobeok · 08/03/2019 12:04

Thank you. I realise from posting this that using contraception is my right

Is there a brand that’s better or more conclusive?

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PBobs · 09/03/2019 00:10

A brand of pregnancy test? First Response Early Response (called FRER on here). Get one of those to try. Good luck with the contraception. There is so much choice out there. As there is with men.

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