How to tell OH

[Sessy19]

This seems a bit of an odd thing to ask. But I did a pg test yesterday(7 actually!) on a whim, because I had weird indigestion and metallic taste in my mouth. And they all turned quite positive!!!

My OH and I have been TTC our first baby since sept 17. I have had ovulation checks and blood tests, and with all ok results, he has made enquiries to check his swimmers although we’re waiting for a date. We’d started saving for IVF, so this is a delightful surprise!!

He is in the Army, and has been away with work since Sunday, he’s due back tomorrow.

I KNOW I shouldn’t have tested without him!! But I did. And now I’m not sure how to tell him?!?!

Any ideas??? I have pictures of the positive tests, and a few more tests at home, but I didn’t want to just text him or to say it over the phone...eurgh! What a bloody ninny I am?!

Aw huge congratulations that is lovely! If he’s back tomorrow I would definitely tell him in person if you can. I’m sure he’ll be so pleased he won’t think twice about you testing while he wasn’t there.

I guess it depends on you but they are a bunch of cute videos on YouTube/FB with people filming how they told their other halves - some of them very elaborate and some very simple. Wrapping things up to open etc, getting a poppy seed/blueberry to put in his hand whatever size the baby apps say the baby is now.

Or just tell him when you are together, a simple “so guess what I’m pregnant!” Whatever you do he’s going to be over the moon and it’ll be a special moment.

Is it a thing to have to test with your partner present now?Text him a photo of the test so he knows as soon as possible after you.

I’d wait until you can tell him in person since seeing my DH’s face when I told him was one of the happiest moments of my life. I just told him to close his eyes and put the positive test in his hand (an FRER with a cap on, so not as gross as an IC!).

I did the same as PP, waited for OH to get home, made him close his eyes and put the positive tests (2 clear blue ones) in his hand. His face as it clicked is one of my favourite memories.

I waved the tests (both times) at my DH, I still remember his happy face!

I tested without my partner because I had tested with him before and he was SO disappointed when it was negative that I couldn’t bear to see that face again! When I told him I was pregnant he was so happy he really didn’t care that I had tested without him, and I’m sure your husband won’t either. Congratulations!

A T-shirt with worlds best daddy or something similar?
I tiny baby sized army something? Don't know much about the uniforms.

Congratulations! I never waited for my boyfriend to be around before I tested. When I told him we were eating takeaway so I waited for him to take a giant mouthful then said it, he choked with delight 😂

I always tested without DH then just told him. Last time we were sat down having a cosy night in and just told him and it was lovely actually.

my OH was working away also. I got an old shoe box and put the preg test, a baby grow and a cuddly toy in it, wrapped it up and told him i had bought him a present

was such a good way to tell him!!

I tested without DH because it was something I wanted to rule out before I visited the gp about this ongoing bug I seemed to have. Turned out it was morning sickness! 😂

I still remember DH face when I told him - he was double chuffed and had tears in his eyes.

Congrats OP

It’s such a personal thing, you just need to think about YOUR DH and do what you think he’d love most. As he’s back tomorrow, definitely in person.

I’m a proper softie so I’d buy a newborn baby grow with something about Daddy on it.

[But be prepared in case his reaction is entirely different than you expect. A lot of people react badly to the news, even when it’s very definitely wanted and tried for. It’s like the reality of the responsibility smacks them in the face. ]

Ask him if he got you a mother's Day card...
Then wait till the penny drops.

I tested without my husband. He wasn't getting back til that evening and I didn't want to get his hopes up so wanted to check I was actually pregnant before putting ideas in his head.

He didn't get home for about 6 hours and the suspense was killing me so instead of saying anything I'd planned, I just burst into tears!

Put a bun in the oven and ask him to check the oven for you? 😂 Congrats

Buy a mug saying "Dad" and make him a brew in it 😀
Congratulations !! Xx