Pregnancy anxiety

[Spaghettimaretty]

I’m 5 weeks now with my second and I thought as this is baby no.2 I would be a bit more relaxed.
As it’s been a week since finding out the news is settling in I’m panicking about a million and one things. I’m going to the toilet every 2 minutes to check for bleeding, I’m constantly googling the chances of miscarriage each day that passes and I’m dreading the early scan I’ve booked in case there’s nothing there.
I was like this with my first and didn’t enjoy the pregnancy at all. Even when I felt DS1 move and I knew he was ok, I’d still worry in case he didn’t move the next day or the day after that or the day after that.

I posted the other day about feeling period pain which is normal, now I’ve hardly felt any aches and pains but maybe that’s because this is no.2 and things won’t be stretching as much as with the first?

I’ve still got very tender boobs, no sickness although I didn’t have any with my son but I do feel a bit queasy of an evening. Nothing is really screaming that there’s a problem and I know the first 3 months is a tender time anyway but I just want to be able to enjoy things and be excited for this baby but I know if it’s anything like my first pregnancy I’ll spend the whole time feeling sick with worry.

Does anybody have any advice or anything that helped them if they felt similar?

@welshsoph thank you so much! Sorry to hear about your miscarriage I can only imagine how much worry that added to this pregnancy. I hope your little one doesn’t keep you waiting too long!

I have my first appointment in just under 2 weeks so I’m hoping I feel a bit more reassured after that! I had a little bit of bleeding with my first and had a scan at 6 weeks so I think it’s a bit daunting this time knowing I won’t have a scan for a while. I’ve booked a private one for the end of the month anyway but it feels years away! I tend to wish my life away in work so hopefully it’ll go quite fast!

I'm feeling the same, recently found out I'm pregnant after a missed miscarriage last June, keep going the toilet every five minutes to check there's nothing there on the paper, have had lower backache and like a achey feeling in my lower tummy, have a reassurance scan on wed and I'm really anxious about going. I remember feeling sick for the first twelve weeks with my son, this time around I feel a bit nauseous and my boobs are a bit sore.

You're not alone, OP. I have issues with anxiety in general but pregnancy has made it so much worse. I have up and down days, by today is a high anxiety day. I'm 22+4, so can't even tell you it'll die out in second trimester.

All we can do is take care of ourselves. Eat well, rest, take our vitamins and keep our hopes up. FX you get through the first trimester without any issues. I'm sure you will.

Your not alone, anxiety sufferer here too! Mine probably comes most from the fact I had a mmc in July last year. I’m now 10 weeks and did have an early reassurance scan at 9 weeks and everything was all good. Only thing is now my anxiety has crept in even more prior to my 12 week scan ahhhhhh which is a week and a half away!! I don’t know if this helps at all but this is how I look at it, everything is unfortunately out of our hands and that’s hard. If it’s not meant to be and somethings wrong our bodies do the right thing and one day we will look back and realise that. If it’s all okay and its meant to be it will! This anxiety and worry is only temporary and everything WILL be okay. Once I’ve had my 12 week scab and if it’s all good I’m going to spend less time on these boards and googling stuff as it doesn’t help at all Xxxx

Thank you so much for your replies!
It’s such a tense time I think I’m worried that my symptoms seem to come and go, i don’t feel pregnant “down there” any more the weird stretchy period feelings have gone which is making me panic but then my boobs are still very tender. I’m trying not to compare this pregnancy with my last as every pregnancy is different. I just wish I could have a scan sooner to ensure things are ok up to now!

Think having a scan every week would help a little, my first midwife appointment is on Thursday and you tend to see them less after a first pregnancy but I think I'm going to ask can I go more regularly.

@Lauraliverpool I think it would help for the rest of the day you have the scan then knowing me the next day I’d be back to square 1 with worry! I’m hoping when I speak to my midwife about my concerns she helps rather than fobbing them off!

I said I wouldn’t but I’ve taken another clear blue digital test as a few days ago it said 2-3 and today says 3+ which has eased my mind a little to know things must be progressing even though I know they’re not very accurate it’s still helping (sort of) at the minute.

I’m hoping I’m hit with all kinds of symptoms just to know things are still going!

@Spag that's true! Hopefully if you voice your concerns to your midwife she will support you in every way possible that is what she is there for. Anything that helps ease things for you.