Pros &cons of a single mum

[Holly0095]

Hello research purposes I'm looking to find out some more views on the pros and cons of being a single mother :) any answers and opinions will be greatly appreciated tia

I'm not one but I imagine if the father was on the scene it would be nice to have a break and some time to yourself.

Hello there,

I think there's many different variables that come into play, the first being do you have a good support network of friends and/or family. The truth is you'll need help at some point if you have say a newborn as you'll be exhausted, so extra hands are a blessing.

As a single Mum you'll be doing night feeds & waking up at all hours yourself. Especially if you're breast feeding, as it can be quite tiring through growth spurts etc.

The other big question is what's babies Dad like? Do they want to be involved? Have they behaved in an unsatisfactory manner.

Lots of parents achieve fantastic results as a lone parent, my emphasis would be on that support network, someone who can watch baby whilst you sleep or have a bath/shower.

Wishing you all the best.

Assuming the father is out of the picture entirely (otherwise you're not a single mum, I suppose), a pro would be that you do will never clash with a partner about how to raise your child, what values you'd like to impart. All the house rules can be yours. There is a certain freedom in that, and it makes it easier to be consistent.

It also means that, no matter your network, you are always the one responsible in the end.

I really admire any mum who manages to do it by herself, and have seen some be nothing less than wonder woman raising fantastic kids, (and like any mum, whether she has a partner or not, make mistakes, muddle through, persevere and be amazing) but I think sharing the care for a child with an involved and equal partner makes many things much easier.