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Ridiculous questions

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Nathansmommy1 · 27/02/2019 08:30

Light hearted post!
I'm 23 weeks pregnant with no 2 and it's occurred to me how expecting a baby can lead people to asking you ridiculous questions. Two I've been asked: 1. Are you going to get a jeep now? We have a big car that is plenty big enough for a second child and all his belongings. And 2. Are you going to keep your hair long when the baby comes? It's mid length and I don't see why I would cut it short, it doesn't take that long to look after! If needed itl go in a messy bin for a few months!
Any other strange questions you've been asked?

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purplemama1990 · 27/02/2019 09:26

Yep I get all sorts of ridiculous questions! Can definitely relate to the bigger car comment... We have a ford focus, which is a medium sized car I'd say with a lovely big boot, but I had comments like "oh you'll be looking for a bigger car now I guess!"

The most ridiculous question I've had is about moving to be closer to my parents. Me and husband are both working and living in Northern Ireland for over two years, and since getting pregnant I've been asked if we will move back to Scotland now to be closer to my parents... Yes, we plan on quitting our jobs, no maternity pay, leaving our house, and moving in with my parents just because we will have a baby now. Seriously?!

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Nathansmommy1 · 27/02/2019 10:07

My dad has a Ford focus and it has a surprisingly big boot, plenty of room for a buggy and a bit of shopping!
O my gosh, the leaving everything you have and moving closer to your parents one would drive me mad! Hard to see where some people get these ideas from!

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LilQueenie · 27/02/2019 16:35

I got the 'you have to start eating meat now you are pregnant' Hmm This was coming from the woman who refused to stop smoking through both pregnancies.

Youvegotafriendinme · 27/02/2019 16:37

I can’t remember how many time I heard “you’ll have to/want to cut your hair soon. You’ll never cope when baby comes.”Hmm

anniehm · 27/02/2019 16:42

I had the car and the hair comment - my longish hair remains and we retained our little Mazda until it clapped out

allfurcoatnoknickers · 27/02/2019 16:48

25 weeks here and SO many ridiculous questions. Loads of people have asked me if I'm pregnant on purpose...I'm 32 and have been married 5 years Confused.

DH and I also own a large one bed, two bath duplex and the number of times I've had people ask "are you moving before the baby comes/ You won't be able to move afterwards!" is ridiculous. The baby will be in with us for at least 6 months anyway! I also wasn't aware you were banned from moving house after you have a baby...

@purplemama1990 People can't fathom why we're not moving hours away from our jobs to be closer to DH's family. Umm, because I don't want to commute 4 hours a day and never see my baby?! Let alone my husband or dogs.

mynameiscalypso · 27/02/2019 17:03

We get the moving house one a lot too (including from my parents). We live in a lovely large 3 bedroom flat and this will be our first DC. Why on earth would we move?

ParadiseLaundry · 27/02/2019 17:09

'2. Are you going to keep your hair long when the baby comes?'

Grin people are so weird!

I'm pg with no 2 also and someone asked the other day if it was planned which I thought was a bit Confused someone also asked with no 1 which was strange enough as we were married, early 30's with our own home so no reason to automatically think it was an accident!

purplemama1990 · 27/02/2019 17:13

@allfurcoatnoknickers I don't understand this need to be close to parents when a baby arrives! Yes, of course it would be lovely to have the extra help if we need it, but it's not as simple as just packing up and moving tomorrow is it.

In terms of moving house, my brother and sis in law moved when my neice was only a couple of months old, it's actually easier at that point I would say, since she just slept most of the day in between feeds/changing and my sis in law could actually get things done. I think people need to understand that life doesn't stop because there's a baby in the picture now!

I'm sure there's a load of other ridiculous things I've been asked but can't remember them now!

purplemama1990 · 27/02/2019 17:15

@ParadiseLaundry I haven't been asked the was it planned question actually, but my husband has! I think it's very rude to ask that, even if not married and renting etc! The funny part was my husband's response though, he said "no, it wasn't planned, we just decided we wanted to try to have a baby and ended up pregnant!" I think that's the definition of planned haha.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 02/03/2019 07:33

I was asked if DD was planned. I was 19, in uni and hadn’t been with DP for all that long. The reason it was ridiculous to ask was because the answer was obviously no! Grin I always responded with:

“Half way through my incredibly intense uni course seemed like the perfect time to have a baby!”

I got asked when we were getting engaged/married. Hmm We’re not... Not yet anyway.

Well, DD is beautiful, DP is now DH, we own our own house, bot Has dH and I finished our degrees and now have our careers so up yours to everyone who judged us!

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 02/03/2019 07:34

bot Has dH

Hmm Should be both DH and

ChrisPrattsFace · 02/03/2019 14:17

I always get told ‘you’re dh will be gutted if it’s a girl won’t he’
And it shocks me! I assume it’s because he’s a very outdoorsy/fishing/motorbike person... but I would still have a girl do all those things!
He’s actually convinced it’s a girl, and neither of us care what it is as long as it’s healthy.

No hair or car comments yet though!

Yakadee · 02/03/2019 15:21

Since when has long hair been an issue? I've never heard that one. I have pretty long hair and my baby is 4 weeks old now and I'm managing! Haha.

I actually got asked a few times if 'it was planned?'. Like that was so crazy when I already have a 2 yo and have said I wanted more children? Also, it's nobodys business x

avacadooo · 02/03/2019 18:36

Got asked from a "best friend" is dh knew about it and had I tricked him into it.
Also she tried to tell me it was a false positive and I was lying about being pregnant.
She was awful so I don't speak to her now but there's definitely a very planned baby chilling inside me ( planned by both of us considering we've been together five years and I haven't spontaneously ended up pregnant before.)

purplemama1990 · 02/03/2019 19:10

@avacadooo wow that really is ridiculous! what makes people think it's ok to ask things like that?! glad to hear you don't speak to her now, her loss and not yours!

avacadooo · 10/03/2019 15:26

@purplemama1990 yeah I don't, my other friends keep telling me she's still putting digs at me on Facebook but she blocked me so I can't see 😂

Another non question but enough to wind me up was my mil telling me not to bother looking at baby girl clothes because I'm having a boy and she's adamant on this saying she was right with predicting her first grandchild. (I was looking for clothes for my newborn niece not for me) and I mean she's got a 50% chance of being right but it's not as if she's a flipping future seeing wizard.
Proper annoyed me especially when she said I'd be telling her when I find out because I can't keep my mouth shut.

Justus22 · 10/03/2019 15:46

We have been asked "do you have room for another?" Granted we won't have enough bedrooms for all children not to share but still, I'm pretty sure we can make room. 2. "did you want a girl?" I do have 3 sons but this question has been asked in each pregnancy (even the first) it seems in the UK most people expect women all want daughters. We didn't try for a girl FYI so it does get on my nerves despite the good intentions and I never respond as though it bothers me but it does a bit. 3. "dont you have a TV?" this one makes me laugh a little but still, 4 pregnancies in 11 years is hardly conclusive that we need other entertainment over baby making. Number 4. "is your husband OK with this?" pretty sure he's 50/50 responsible for conception and he is more than happy but I'm wondering if I should be grateful from the way it's asked 😂. The strangest thing about these sorts of questions though is that they nearly always come from women who have had kids 🤔. Maybe we will turn into the women who ask this stuff one day.

MaltedMilk88 · 10/03/2019 19:16

Laughing at these, 24 weeks here and all so relatable, particularly moving house one (2 bed spacious end terrace which is absolutely fine!) more than once on whether pregnancy was planned, I'm 30, married 3 years and together 13 years so duh yes.
If I'm going to give up my job (my commute is 45 mins-1hr which horrifies people)
If I'm going to stop dying my hair (nope I'd be grey all over practically and hairdresser quite happy the dye she uses is safe)

MissPollyHadADolly19 · 10/03/2019 19:54

Pg with 2nd and all I'm getting is "I bet you're wanting a boy now" because I already have a DD. So we aren't telling anyone the gender until the D Day Grin

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Nathansmommy1 · 11/03/2019 06:45

That one really annoyed me too, I have a boy so everyone expects I wanted a girl now. Tbh I'm delighted it's another boy!

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drogon1 · 11/03/2019 07:36

Just the "was it planned" one. Just eff off!! 😬

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