Have convinced self I’ve lost the pregnancy

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I had a miscarriage last year and it’s left me extremely anxious about my current pregnancy.
I booked myself a private scan to take place at 8 weeks (the time I lost the last one) - this is finally taking place tomorrow.
I am convinced I’ve lost it and it will be another missed mc. I haven’t felt sick at all since last Thursday and I don’t feel pregnant. My boobs still hurt and I’m tired but I think that was the same last time. I had a very small amount of spotting earlier today
I know there’s nothing I can do and what will be will be, but I feel very sad and scared. I’m dreading being told I’m right tomorrow.
I don’t know why I’m posting. I feel very alone right now.

Oh gosh, I'm so sorry for your loss. You sound so worried, what time is your appointment tomorrow?

No advice, just hand holds. I hope you get the best outcome tomorrow OP!

Sending positive thoughts and a hug your way. Hope all goes well tomorrow x

OP, that sounds so hard! I would suggest getting help for your anxiety irrespective of what your scan tomorrow shows. I was extremely anxious in pregnancy too, and there are things that can be done to help you. Ask for a referral to the perinatal mental health services (this was suggested to me after I called the midwives in floods of tears because I was convinced my baby was dead). There are safe medicines as well, and you might want to see if the NCT runs any Parents in Mind groups for women experiencing mental health difficulties in pregnancy and early motherhood. All the best for tomorrow!

I sympathise. My first was a mmc and my second pg was stressful. I now have two kids.
Wishing you all the very best tomorrow.

I know how you feel. After a loss you worry at every key stage. I convinced myself I had miscarried my last one and he ended up being fine. Big hugs from me and hope all goes well tomorrow

@Aceinthehole thank you, it’s at 8am so at least I won’t have to wait too long. Though am also worried the appointment hasn’t been booked properly and I won’t be seen!

@NCkitten thank you. I am already in therapy but if it turns out I’m wrong about having lost it I’ll discuss at midwife appointment next week.

Thank you all for posting. It is very comforting and I appreciate it. I don’t have anyone else I can talk to right now, my partner is out and I don’t want to worry him more than I already have.

I felt like this before my early 9 week scan on Saturday. Anxious & prepared for the worse but the lady that scanned me was lovely and could tell we were nervous. She did it swiftly and showed us the little heartbeat. I also had a mmc 5 months ago. Stay postive😘 not long now & you will know - all will be well xxxx

Good luck this morning 💗🙏🏾

Symptoms can fluctuate, fingers crossed you get good news today.

Good luck 🤞🏻

Good luck today!

We had an very early pregnancy loss (5-6 weeks) before falling again a few months later, I am now 10 weeks. I was the same with fluctuating symptoms (I think it’s a very common phenomenon in early pregnancy as hcg levels double every 48-72 hours, your body adjusts then you may feel less symptoms as result.)

I know reading or hearing this is not very helpful when you’re anxious too, as is people, even professionals, saying light bleeding in early pregnancy is common. I was very, very anxious like yourself and was waiting for disappointment at the private scan last week. I had convinced myself something wasn’t right, to the point I thought maybe I imagined the whole thing 😂 our brains are wonderful things sometimes. However it showed a lovely, active little baby with a strong heartbeat and I was in complete disbelief and awe of it.

I am going to discuss my anxiety with the midwife at my 12 week appointment and I think it might help you to think about the same. We don’t need to suffer through this alone!

Sending you lots of love 💕 and positivity for today and wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy xx

Thank you all so much for your kind words and sharing your stories. It helps so much to know I’m not the only one who has felt this way.
I had my scan this morning and was 100% certain it was dead and another miscarriage would be starting. Happily, I was wrong. We saw a strong fast heartbeat 💗 and the doctor said there was nothing to suggest there was anything wrong. He has dated me a couple of days earlier than I thought but said this was neither here nor there. I am relieved and shocked, and a bit more hopeful. I think I’m going to book another reassurance scan in a couple of weeks as I suspect my nhs dating scan won’t be for another 5 weeks and I think I will struggle to manage my worry over that period of time. I will discuss my anxiety at my midwife appointment next week.

Thank you all again :)

Congratulations!

Congrats OP, that’s a lovely update. The doctor is right in telling you not to worry about the two days date difference - I was convinced about when I ovulated but my dates were moved by 5 days earlier than I thought and I’m now nearly 37 weeks pregnant. X

That's amazing news, so happy for you! Just hold onto the little image of your baby now and the doctor saying everything looked healthy.

You're doing great, be kind to yourself xx

Greets news OP, enjoy your pregnancy x

Fantastic to hear OP!

Great news! So happy for you 💖 relax for a while now xxx