Colleague starting IVF - I'm 9months pregnant.

[HidCat]

Just wondering how best to handle this really. I'd planned to pop into the office a few weeks after baby is born but I'm now very aware that this will be right when my colleague and his wife find out if their IVF has been successful.

I won't know if they've even tested yet never mind if they're dealing with success / failure / the wait for the first scan / god forbid a miscarriage. We have a cafe on site so thought I could go there and let those interested come to me rather than just drop into the office.

Anyone got any advice of how to handle things in a sensitive manner?

I think your plan of going to the cafe is very good-sensitive and sensible. You sound lovely. (I'm currently going through a miscarriage post-ivf if that adds any weight).

@KatnissMellark thank you and I'm so sorry. I hope you're doing ok and getting plenty of support.

Is she a close enough friend that you can ask her what she would she comfortable with? The cafe idea sounds great though.

Do you need to take your baby into work? If you’re friends with them outside work then they will see the baby anyway and if you’re not then they won’t be interested.

You sound lovely and considerate OP. Good luck with the baby

@Bobbiepin he's not been with us long and I don't know him and his wife all that well yet so I don't think I'd feel comfortable just asking him outright.

@PotteringAlong My husband works for the same company so we'll meet up for lunch when he goes back. Seems rude to not pop in to say hi but as I said before I think I'll probably just stay in the cafe rather than go up to the office and let them come to see baby if they want to.

@Stinkytoe thank you.

@HidCat my bestie is here with wine and we're having take out. I have a nearly-two-year-old too and been getting snuggles from him so I know I'm lucky. I've done Sox rounds and had three losses and it's so hard, but I have my son, my husband and my friends so life is pretty rich and I have to be grateful for that.