Going to a wedding 10 days before due date

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My cousins wedding is 10 days before my due date.

We are a close family, I am very close to her, and her fiance is great. I always have the best time at family weddings and from what I've heard I think this one will be lovely. I really really really want to go.

It's around 4 hours drive away. With an accident on the motorway could be longer. I'll be very uncomfortable, especially in the car.

There is a hospital with a maternity unit nearby, I would take my notes with me, but obviously I'm not booked in there.

This will be my second DC. I went 8 days over last time, and was in slow labour for 2+ days before getting induced to speed things up.

I took a month off before that due date, and was cautious not to go far from home - so I was bored and waiting for ages for something to happen. I don't want to do this to myself again.

Cousin and fiance are v chilled about having me RSVP yes then seeing how I'm feeling nearer the time, or if baby comes early!

If I have any inkling of labour I won't go. But assuming no labour signs and I feel up to it, should I go?

It's up to you, you knew how you felt late on in your last pregnancy. Personally I was huge with both my pregnancies and late on was very uncomfortable. I also ended up in hospital with my youngest at 37 weeks and having him at 38 weeks. So personally I wouldn't! But everyone is different.

Oh I would definitely plan to go. Just plan plenty of stops on the way

Go. Just take the car seat for the baby with you so you can get home with them if you need to

I went to a christening three hours away 5 days before my due date. It was fine.

I have a friend who planned to go to a wedding about three days after her due date (first baby - and, of course, she gave the usual caveat that she might have to cancel at short notice!). It was about 5 minutes drive from her parents’ house, but about 2 1/2 hours drive from hers. In the end, she was dancing away after midnight while her husband lay down looking pale. Baby arrived about 10 days late in the end.

So it can work. But you should certainly play it by ear.

There is no way I would go to this if it was me. What if you or the baby are unwell when born, you’d be stuck in a hospital 4hrs from home.

I would absolutely go. If they don't mind a last minute cancellation then that is a win win for you surely?

Go if you want

If you feel up to going, then you should do it!

I’d definitely go - it’s only a few hours away!

I'm going to a wedding next week when I'll be 37+2.

Admittedly it's only an hours drive away, but I feel fine.

I'm actually quite looking forward to getting glammed up and putting on my high heels 😊

I was invited to a wedding 4 hours away (and nowhere near anyone we knew, the couple had chosen somewhere random!) two weeks before my first, and we declined - because I dreaded the thought of having to drive the newborn home for 4 hours if I had have given birth up there.
But, if it had been close to family or friends and 4 hours away we probably would have gone as we could have stayed there if needed after the birth.

I'd go, at that point in my pregnancies I can't sit still and I spend all time I'm not occupied willing labour to hurry up. Worst case you give birth in another hospital. X

I know someone that gave birth at 7am and was at her sisters wedding at 1pm as bridesmaid! Anything is possible just depends how you feel :)

Thanks all! So I've definitely decided to go. Unless baby is already here and I can't manage it, or there are signs of imminent labour.

I'm 10 days from my due date today and TBH struggling to sit comfortably anywhere, especially the car! I feel like I'm constantly hauling a sack of spuds around on my front.
4 hours in the car - not very appealing tbh! But then everyone is different.

I'm going to one this week 14 days exactly before EDD. Feet and ankles started swelling at the weekend so I'll probably be in a flat sandal and not heels! However...its a 30min drive. If you want to just go for it and be prepared!

As long as you’re feeling ok - go for it. I went to one when I was 37 and had a great day - it’s nice to celebrate other people’s happiness! Although it would be totally understandable if you weren’t feeling up to it.

I was due to go to a wedding 13 days before my due date. I didn’t make the wedding.

I have a wedding 14 days before my EDD - it is about 15 minutes away and right on the way to our hospital anyway so I am going. If it wasn't so local I might consider not because of the journey but if you can leave early and stop a few times then I would.