I’m so unprepared and stressed!

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I’m 36 weeks pregnant with my first. I have barely anything for her for when she arrives, not got much clothes, no pram or car seat, no house! I’m currently in the process of getting moved into a
Homeless unit, I have no hospital bags packed for me and my little one, I’m in a bad way financially and my O/H doesn’t give me the support I need. For example tells me to stop complaint when I’m in pain or uncomfortable, doesn’t clean or cook or do the grocery shopping, isn’t helping me to pack our things, will absolutely REFUSE to pick a baby name but yet I’m not aloud to choose a name myself, he said he wants to help pick the name but has completely ignored me every time I ask about names or anything like that, but when I suggest a name he hates it and doesn’t want it. He also complains when I don’t make dinner and how tired he is too, I’m also working still and feel like he doesn’t listen to me at all just feel really so stressed and unprepared. I’m sorry for the long post I just need to rant a little because I feel like no one is listening to me and I just need to let it out. Anyone else been in a similar way? How do you cope with just so much going on with not much support. I feel like a useles human not being able to clean proper or move stuff myself and complaining about my pains and such but I can’t help it. :(

Oh love you don't need the stress! Have you spoke to HV about getting some support? Trust me it is hard work looking after a newborn. So rewarding but knackering and everything else will come second. Look and see if you can get a grant. I'm sure most countries have them for babies. Citizens advice may be able to help you in that direction. Charity shops and eBay are great for baby bundles of clothes. Check Gumtree for 2nd hand pram etc or check an see if there's a community Facebook buy and sell type thing. Im sorry youre so stressed out. I completely relate to the tiredness and you shouldn't have to deal with this right now.

Also I'm sure debt relief and other agencies are available to help you with finances. If you have family or friends maybe look and see if they have anything kicking about not being used to. Never be afraid to ask for help.

Can you apply for the surestart maternity grant? Have a look on Facebook market place for second hand items or see if you have a little pickles pop up market anywhere near you.
If you're moving into homeless accommodation is there anyone there who can help you get everything you need for the baby? X

Where about are you from hun just take it easy as for your OH tell him to either step up or do one i would start writing down names you likd and maybe pick one after she's born that suits her.

Im 36 weeks with 4th baby and only picked her name today and im still abit meh about it tbh.

Everything will fall into place xx