7 month old and a new baby?

[Aliwoomannew]

Hi all, help needed
I currently have a 7 month old girl and have found out this week I am now pregnant again. I am due back to work 1st April and I’m really not sure I can do it again.
What would you do? What have people done? Success stories? Real truths please

A good friend of mine had her two close together, they are now in their early 20s and are very close.

15 months between my oldest two. I won't lie, it was hard work in the early days and I don't think I was prepared for juggling the different needs of an active toddler and a new born.
But. It was short lived, a few months really, and then we started to get into routines, I learned to distract with toys/games/crafts at times I needed to concentrate on the little one and I made time for the older one when the baby slept. It was tiring, and I got very little downtime for myself. Preparing meals and going for a wee was a challenge. I showered when my partner got home and I meal prepped at weekends when he was around. He did a lot of the cooking in the week also.

They are 6 and 7 now, and I have a two year old. They fight and argue a lot but they also entertain each other every day. They never complain about being bored, they go off and play together frequently. They are currently camping out with sleeping bags on the floor of one of their rooms (they shared a room until last year) and have been outside in the garden all day bike riding and running around with walkie talkies playing games. I basically fed them at lunchtime and haven't seen them all day!

It's worth it in the end. 

13 months between my two, we don’t have any family close by, doing it a by ourselves. Yes it can be hard but you just get on with it and I wouldn’t change it for the world. It’s completely doable, congratulations and good luck!

Congratulations!!

14 months between my first two, and then a three year gap before having second set. There are 19 months between my second two.

Like PP said, the early days are hard. Exhausting but tons of fun. Luckily DH was/is very hands on with all of them, as I would have really struggled without him. My eldest two are 10 & 9 now and excellent friends. I returned to work when DC2 was 7 months old, it took us about 6 weeks to get into a routine and then it was quite good.

I’m about 6 months ahead of you! Found out I was pregnant when DS was 7 months old. He’ll be 15 months when this one is born in 10 weeks. Eek!

My DC1 will be 14 months when DC2 arrives in just over 2 weeks.

We planned to try for a second soon after our first was born, as it took us 7 years to conceive DC1. We just didn't expect to get pregnant on our first try with DC2.

I'm excited at DC2's arrival, but also slightly apprehensive at the prospect of having two so young.

There’s a 15 month gap between my first two then 14 months between DC 2&3 so all in all three DC in 2.5 years. It wasn’t easy at the time and I was definitely on autopilot for a lot of it but now they’re older it’s fantastic, they get on fairly well. I’ve always liked the fact they went through the stages of childhood in quick succession as well.

If this is not something you want then you do have options.

My son was exactly 7 months when I found I was (planned) pregnant with my 3rd child.
15 months between them - now 9 years old and almost 8.
First year is hard but after that, its easier - I found that because they were/ are so close in age they occupy each other, teach each other a lot, go to the same activities (so one drop off/ one collection), same school at the same time, have the same interest.
They are extremely close.
I feel sorry for my oldest (5 year gap between her an her brother) as shes more on her own.

I'd do it again. I honestly would.

My daughter turned 1 just over a week ago and I'm nearly 18 weeks pregnancy there'll be 17 months between my two and I'm not gonna lie, I'm really nervous but everyone I know with children close together has said that it's hard at first but so much better in the long run. I'm clinging onto that lol. Good luck xx

There 10 months between my eldest two. I found it quite easy because I was still already in the thick of the baby stage. You just kind of get on with it 🙈

Their 17&16 now and very close.

16 months between mine and I do all the work myself as my husband is a lazy arse. It’s tough but fun and totally do-able parenting the second is easier as you know what to do /expect.
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My DD was 3 months when I fell pregnant. She's 8 months now and I'm 18 weeks but we planned it to be like this (I know, crazy) I've done it before tho, small age gap between my 2 older DC. I'm guessing I coped ok cause I'm not in a mental institute and they are both alive and safe 😂 I was lucky tho, all DD did for 6 months was sleep, except when I woke her to feed her, which meant I was still able to give DS lots of attention (he was 1 years old). Fingers crossed so tightly it'll be the same again 🤞🤞🤞

I found out I was pregnant with #3 when DS was 8m, turned out that #3 was actually #3&4! Our twins arrived 4weeks ago so I currently have a 4yo, 17m old & 4w old twins. Life is a little crazy but also lots of fun, I've found despite the small gap & twins I've been a lot more relaxed this time around as I know what I'm doing & know what to expect so just get on with it! I'm sure it will have hard moments but hopefully the good will outweigh the bad! 🤞

Hi, Im due to have my 2nd baby in 4 weeks and my son is currently only 11 months! My son will be 1 on 8th March and Im having ELCS on 21st March.
He was just over 4 months when I found out and it took me quite a while to get my heard around it! I am still a bit anxious at how I will cope. Both my husband and my family live over an hour away so we have little in the way of support/help. Although my husband is very good with our son and around the house. My son also goes to a childminder 4 days a week as I have been back at work for 2 months so he will continue to go there for a while once we adjust with new baby.
I am sh*tting myself and fully prepared for how hard it will be, but I am feeling truly blessed to have another child to add to our family and a sibling for DS. A couple of my friends are having difficulty with secondary infertility so we count ourselves extremely lucky.
Also I found this pregnancy easier because I was able to rest/sleep when DS napped in the first trimester. wheras if I was at work I couldnt really do that.

Someone told me about having kids close together 'why walk through fire when you can run through it?' lol.

Dont worry you CAN do it. The thought is daunting to me still but people get through it and time goes by so quickly!