5 weeks, chat and advice from other single mothers

[Mel99xx]

Hi
Im recently pregnant and recently been left to be a single mother. Would like to chat to people who may have advice in this area.
Mel x

Hi I'm currently expecting baby number 5, I am also single but I am 34 weeks now. Here if you want to chat

Hey, I'm in the same boat too.
32 weeks pregnant now but the father wanted no input from the start. I also have an 11 year old who I have brought up on my own since he was 3.
I'm here if you want to chat too x

I'm half way through my pregnancy, have split from dad- my choice. He's very much involved (too much sometimes the frequency of texts etc but I'm trying not to be ungrateful!).

Looking like I'll be staying with my mum for the duration of maternity leave. Fortunately it's a big enough house we aren't in top of each other and her and step dad are both very excited!

It's nice to hear I'm not alone and people are going through the same. It's difficult when it's not your choice and it scary. This is massive change and my first child. Always wanted kids and I've been completely let down by this person. He is not who I expected him to be. He has 2 children with another women when he was younger and he said we wont exist to him. Hard to handle being pregnant and being heart broken. How did you manage to get your head around it? Does it get easier?x I feel I won't be able to stop hurting as it's his child. X thank you for chatting with me.

It honestly does get easier, it takes time and patience but doing it alone is also very rewarding. My youngest 3 have the same dad he isn't involved anymore (he was useless even when he was here) but he has 6 kids total by 4 different women and he has no contact with any of them and quits his job every time csa catch ups. I genuinely believe my children are better off with out a waste of space like that. So long as they have one parent who loves them and has their best interest at heart that all our children need. You will be an amazing mum and you can do this

It is a difficult journey but it is one that will be so rewarding and worth it.
My first child as I said I lived with his dad until he was 3 but he was and still is a terrible father and I was 1000 times happier once I'd left him. Me and my son have such a close bond and I know that part of that is because he has only had me to rely on.
This pregnancy is different as the father told me straight out he wants nothing to do with me and has not contacted me since. And honestly all I feel is sorry for him, sorry that he won't get to take part in all the amazing things you experience while bringing a child up. This was unplanned and I fully understand what a shock it was but I didn't realise just how cruel men can be in these situations. Will you have alot of support from friends or family?

Same situation @Mel99xx we were together 5 years and he was my best mate too I've been so heartbroken and down, I had 2 months off work with stress. I'm due in 9 weeks and it has got slightly better but only because I've got my mum and sister and good support. His family have been horrible to me as well especially his sister, who I was quite close to before. Our break up started after I seen a video of him on Instagram kissing the head of one of his colleagues and being overly affectionate with her.. he grovelled for a few days and then while my baby nephew was in intensive care so poorly, he stressed me out even more calling me while I was at hosp telling me he was going out with work again and that i have to trust him or there is no point, even though it was only the previous weekend he carried on like he didn't have a partner and baby on the way while he was out. Argh men! He then stopped us from moving in together and made the break up very permanent.

It's so hard to go through pregnancy heartbroken, it's my first baby too and I thought this time would be so special I wanted to feel settled and content with a baby on the way but I feel so stressed about the future and being a single mum. I also don't want to miss a moment with my baby. Men that walk away during pregnancy should have no rights! It's infuriating to think they can just turn up and demand access because of their 'rights' when they'v not been supportive at all and have caused many months of stress and pain! I'm hoping that once my baby is here in 9 weeks that all the heartache will disappear! And I hope that happens for you too! X