38 week, exhausted and can't stop crying

[MissMoodyMoo]

As above!! I feel so physically and mentally DONE!! I have appointments every 2 days, my house is a mess, I can't sleep, I'm constantly in pain, I'm kept awake at night thinking about the fact my stairs haven't been hovered in WEEKS! People keep mentioning things I haven't bought yet or things they think I have bought is a waste of money! I'm just so fed up! Like to the point I just feel emotionally numb! I'm currently hiding in the loo crying because I have to walk the dog with awful hip pain then come home and tidy my bombsite of a house after my lovely partner had the weekend off yet not one dish or bit of the house has been cleaned since Friday 😭😭 he works long hours and rarely has a full weekend off and is a gem of a man so I can't actually get angry at him for not washing the dishes but I just resent the fact that I HAVE to! Even before I finished work for maternity cleaning the house, dinner etc was my job as well as working full time but I was never this exhausted! I'm now terrified that this is my life! Except with a baby now! I'm going to have to do it all! Because as a mum that's my job? Is being a modern woman really worth it? It's great we are career driven etc but still expected to do all the other stuff that comes with mum and wife!...maybe I'm just hormonal and having a mental breakdown! My bums getting numb now hiding on the loo from my gorgeous wee dogs puppy dog eyes who needs his walkies! So ill pop some sun glasses on and have a cry whilst on the walk😥 might even steep the 3 day old dishes before i go out as I'm honestly considering black bagging them and taking them to the dump rather than washing them 😂😂 ughhh I miss having a wish washer!!

You have a full sized baby in there - the last weeks are absolute hell - so uncomfortable, tiny bladder, exhausted all the time - I completely get you.

Get paper plates. Buy ready meals. Forget hoovering the bloody stairs, it's not going to kill anyone.

Be gentle with yourself.

Oh, and your DP may work long hours, but if you weren't there he'd have to look after himself and wash his own dishes - don't become his housekeeper by default.

Growing a baby is demanding. Tell your partner they need to do more.

Can you pay a dog walker (of local teenager) to take the dog out?

You can leave hoovering the stairs for 6 months until the baby is crawling!

I’m all seriousness though, I totally sympathise. It’s bloody awful and I don’t think people understand how hard it is. I was convinced I had some sort of terminal illness in the last few weeks when I was pregnant with DS

Please try and be kind to yourself, get some rest and see if you can get some help from your DP or a cleaner/dog walker

38+4 weeks here too! Honestly, don’t put so much pressure on yourself! The best advice I could give you is take a deep breath and if possible throw a little bit of money at the situation! Hire a cleaner to come around for a couple of hours. It’ll be £40ish well spent if it takes a bit of stress off you.

I've already looked into getting a cleaner as 2 of our childless close friends get one in once a month to do a deep clean and it really does sound fab so I mentioned it to my mum and she was horrified and said she would come round and help if I made or ordered in dinner one night. But I feel like an idiot asking for help with my house work ? Also I've spoken to dog walkers and because i have a rescue dog with epilepsy I'd need to go on the trial walk with them which could be up to 2 miles!! I think I'd die off waking that lol which is sad considering I use to run it nearly every day before pregnancy! I'm just do over it! I'm still recovering from a hospital admission for sepsis 2 weeks ago so feeling pretty poor

I had a massive meltdown today because one of my (very nice and I don't have many nice things) cashmere gloves was put in the wash basket when my mother borrowed them when she visited. I didn't notice and now it's ruined. I don't even need them at the moment as I can't go out and it's hot anyway!!

It'll be ok. And no you don't have to do it all. I'm not working and dh does far more than the lion's share at the moment. He needs to step up. Sometimes a partnership is 50/50, but sometimes one partner needs more support. Right now, you're very hormonal, very vulnerable and you need more support - and that's fine!! When he's about to birth a watermelon, you can give more than 50%!

Ignore what your mum says and get the cleaner. Get your partner to shape up and not leave the place a state. Sod the stairs, if ELLE Deco are coming over for a shoot they can hoover, otherwise who cares? Order a freestanding dishwasher and cram it in your kitchen somehow. Take the dog for the bare minimum walk that returns via the corner shop for a medicinal slab of Dairy Milk, then go for a lie-down. Repeat the last part as needed.

Can't fit a stool in my kitchen let alone a dishwasher

So I sucked it up put my big girl pants on and done the house work 😂 but decided against the shower! That can be tomorrow's big job! Drying my hair seems like the equivalent to climbing a munro these days 😂

I'm sorry but your partner is a prick.

If you don't get him onside right now, you're going to be the family skivvy forever. Fuck that. He can't even wash a dish for his heavily pregnant partner, i.e the person he loves most in all the world?

I'd tell him to get to fuck, to be honest. It'll be easier when you only have one adults tidying to do.

Get your mum round, tell you partner he's being lazy and don't fret about it.

Can you contact the rescue centre where you got the dog from and see if they have any suggestions to help with walking an epileptic dog?

I used to have to get my mum round when DS was a toddler as the hoover scared the shit out of him.

Get the cleaner and organise the dog walker- send DP on the trial walk!