How to deal with period when ttc?

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TTC for 4 months now, everytime I get my period I just feel so heartbroken and kind of go numb and feel empty until it's gone. Any tips on how to deal with it? I just dread it so much.

Lower your expectations. Don't expect to get pregnant on any given cycle. 4 months is not long in the ttc world, which is totally different to what we were taught in school. So you have to change your mindset. At four months ttc you're still less likely to be pregnant than not.

Give up trying , just have unprotected sex. DD decided that trying was affecting her mental health for a couple of months. She got pregnant the next cycle. Failing that getting a puppy seems to work too.

Change your mindset.

Go out for sake and sashimi.

Plan things to do that you couldn't (easily) do pregnant and consider it running the clock out on your irresponsibility.

Lower your expectations. Hard I know especially because when your at school they tell you that you’ll get pregnant the first time you have unprotected sex 🙄. I think there’s only a 20% chance each month of actually falling pregnant, assuming you are both healthy with no known issues.

4 months really isn’t a long time and some people on this board and the conception boards have been trying a rally long time. It took me a year of TTC as I get periods every 2 weeks most months (no idea why).

Save some money up for when you do fall pregnant and have to go on maternity leave or do things now that you wouldn’t be able do with a baby. That way when your period does come you’ll have more money saved or you’ll be able to go out somewhere to keep your mind off TTC as otherwise it will consume you

We were diagnosed as infertile as a couple (his issues). So my expectations were very low - just waiting for an appointment at the ivf clinic.

What helped me was listening to podcasts - in particular How to get healthy and get pregnant and Fertility Fridays. With information from these I concentrated on improving my cycles and making myself more healthy. I also joined their Facebook groups.

If you’re not pregnant in a year, obviously, go and get checked out - both of you! If you’re over 35, go after 6 months.

Good luck!

It's OK to be sad. When we were trying to conceive I was angry and sad every month because I was doing everything I could to be pregnant and it wasn't working. I stopped using opks and started trying to be more relaxed. I was so relaxed on my 8th cycle I got my dates wrong and tested a few days later than I could have and got the strongest bfp ever! We're 2 months into trying for number 2 now and I'm back to angry and sad (I have terrible pmt at the moment so I know it's not worked this month) and I'm allowing myself to wallow! Be kind to yourself, have lots of sex and good luck x

I'm 14 months of trying. My moods are very up and down. Sometimes I'm quite positive, other times I'm just pissed off with it. I've started acupuncture (a few months ago) and the headspace app (2 days ago) and I'm also trying to walk more, for mental and physical health. You need to do what works for you as we're all different.