Exhausted at 4 weeks

[HJWT]

I am 4 weeks today, iv cried over weetabix tonight.... and I am exhausted ! Is this normal ?? I have a toddler but I'm used to her 6 am wake up call and get enough sleep! By 5pm I want to be in bed 😴 don't remember being this tired with DD and I did 12 hour shifts back then ....

Totally normal unfortunately. Your DH needs to step up. It should pass by 16 weeks!

@HavelockVetinari ahh good to hear! He has got up with her twice this week but once I hear her on the baby monitor I am up! And I cant take naps during the day as much as I want to I can never fall asleep 😭

I’m 15 weeks pregnant with DC2 and I was the same! I’m still getting tired quite easily now, but It is much better now. Like you though, I don’t remember being like this with DS1! All I can think is it’s the difference with having a toddler to look after. We might be used to the early mornings etc but growing a human at the same time is a lot if DP is in the picture ask (tell!) him to take over the lions share of things for a while til you have a bit more energy? Or you do mornings and he does evenings maybe...? Look after yourself OP! Xx

@PrincessConsuelaBanana I am just so used to being up with her that the second she makes a noise my eyes pop open 👀 she usually stands at the gate shouting 'mum' 😩💕

If you have a spare room I'd suggest sleeping there temporarily with ear plugs and eye mask. It's so important to get enough sleep in the early days. Your DH will cope, and he needs to prioritise you and both DC now.

P.S. whilst I'm going through IVF (drugs make me exhausted) DH is doing the nights and has told me to sleep in the spare room with ear plugs, he will see to DS. We're both tired but it's important.

@HavelockVetinari aw good luck with your IVF hun hope you get a BFP 💕 I am usually asleep by now but iv sent DH out for food 🤐 xx

I'm finding the mornings OK, I'm waking up naturally at 6am and DS(2) often sleeps until gone 7 so I'll happily get up with him.
The evenings is the struggle at the moment, I'll have a nap when I get home from work. Wake up for dinner and go straight back to bed leaving DH to deal with DS until his bed time. Just can't seem to function after about 4pm.
The first trimester seems so much harder the second time around.

@HJWT I know exactly what you mean! Once DS wakes me up in the morning that’s it, I’m awake! So maybe say you’re happy to do the get ups (if you’re going to struggle to get back to sleep anyway? - DS still wakes me up even if I’m sleeping in our attic room ) and your DP can do bath/supper/bedtime and you can get an extra early night? I’m exactly the same in that I can’t nap in the day either which is so frustrating when you’re tired! So fond somethong that works for you. You don’t want to run yourself into the ground, it’s very important to get enough rest and sleep xx

@BillyandtheSillies
‘The first trimester seems so much harder the second time around.’

A thousand times yes!!! I’m just out of the 1st trimester now and feeling a lot better, but it is so much harder this time. Why did no one warn me?! Hope you start to feel a bit more energetic soon ! Xx

Eesh yes... I remember the first trimester reasonably well and the overwhelming feeling was tiredness and sickness.

Felt bloody awful all the time!!

You have my full sympathies. Plus you've already got a little one milling about too.

Hang in there OP. Not long to go til it passes and then you can start to feel a little more normal. Those golden three months of the 2nd trimester 🤩