Week overdue and getting pissed off with baby then I feel guilty

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Just that really.

I’m almost a week overdue and am a FTM and I feel really pissed off with the baby which I know is really unfair and irrational.

My last midwife appointment I had a sweep and was told I was 1cm dilated and despite loads of pre labour signs and the baby being really low down it doesn’t want to make an appearance.

I feel so stressed carrying it now and being in pain and constantly monitoring movements. I am also extremely anxious because the baby is so low down that I’m going to accidentally crush it’s head as I know where it’s shoulder is but not the head.

I just want the damn thing out of me now. How can I shake this feeling?

I know that feeling - happened to me 3 x. And - sorry! - quite a bit longer than just one week over. It will come when it is ready.

Oh - and ditch the guilt - I had several very stern conversations with the foetus whilst in waiting mode!!

Pregnancy is horrendous at the end and even worse when you go over 😤 I know it's hard but try and relax, take long baths, read, sleep.

Believe me when the babies here and your sleep deprived and exhausted you will want to put him back in 😬🙈

You won't hurt the baby. They're well cushioned.

When I went overdue with DC1 I was a waddling ball of fury. I had to bail out of an NCT meet up because everyone else had delivered their babies and the sight of them infuriated me 😂 I would sometimes push down on the top of my bump and say "het out get out get out" (she took no notice, that hasn't changed!)

Don't feel guilty, there's too many people who will try to make you feel bad about parenting decisions once the baby is here. Go have a bath and eat something that requires two hands and then go for a walk. Good luck

I remember this so well from DD1.I had been practicing hypnobirthing, being all zen about ‘baby will come when they’re ready’ etc - the day after her due date I remember feeling furious! We’re all ready, where the hell are you?! Full sympathy from me, it is really hard.

In case you want more ideas to keep you busy, I spent all my time sitting on a gym ball, bouncing and doing hip circles while I did other things (TV, reading, knitting, colouring books).

Thanks all!

I am feeling a bit less grouchy about it now.

Also @gothicsprout I am the same with the hypnobirthing 😂 I was all zen about it until today

do all the things you need to do to try and hasten things. Pineapple, Raspberry leaf tea, extra hot nandos, walk.... DTD! baby will soon be here, and you will feel better "doing something".

Relaxation relaxation relaxation.

This is stress talking. Mine came (2 weeks late) once I actually relaxed.

And have a gentle word to baby letting them know that it is all going to be ok and you are here to learn to care for them now.

I'm doing a hypnobirthing course and it says that 85% of babies to FTMs are born over 40 weeks, and the average time is actually 40+10! So baby isn't late at all, just not ready :) all the stress and worrying won't be helping bring on the labour either so try to relax as best you can. DS came at 40+3 and I was disheartened and fed up by then so I totally get where you're coming from. In lots of countries due date is considered 41 weeks too. I think we put too much emphasis on that date that it's easy to be disappointed when it comes and goes!