AIBU??

[ShanAmanda]

Long post ahead 😫

AIBU to think my partner is completely reckless with money??
We don't currently live together ( we both live with our own parents... I did used to have my own place but after a job breakdown and then only going back to work part time, I haven't had success in leaving home again.)

So he has 2 sometimes 3 paychecks in a month, bringing home roughly £900/£1000 each paycheck. I take home roughly £900 every 4 weeks.

We have a baby on the way and have a baby fund which is for everything baby needs and a house deposit ect. We both pay £200 a month into it. Yet by the second week of his payday he has to take money out because he is "broke". AIBU to get annoyed by the fact that we're supposed to be getting a house together yet his reckless with money? He burns through what I get in a month... in a week 😳😳

Did you mean to post this in AIBU? It's in pregnancy atm.

Ahh possibly but any advice is appreciated!

Just to add to this post; He showed no interest in the pregnancy up until the last couple of months (I'm nearly full term). We have everything for baby but this is because I spent months asking for him to help pick things and months of him refusing, just went ahead and did it myself.

He has no major financial responsibilities so I don't understand how he can be so reckless?

Ask MN to move this to relationships so you can get the best advice.

He sounds like he is either in denial or very immature. I guess you'll have to sit down and try and talk to him

What's he spending it all on? Seems irresponsible given he is at home and had obvs agreed to putting that amount in.

Wow! That's a lot of money when he (presumably) is not required to spend much on housing!
My DH brings In around 4 grand a month and me around £1800 and he still has contributed around 3x more than me to our baby fund with no problem.

Sorry OP but your partner sounds selfish. I think you need to have a serious chat about the future, child costs for the baby and savings for things like a home together/childcare etc. Unfortunately if you don't get to the bottom of it now you could find yourself struggling once he baby is here... that's not ideal.