I'm sure just like everyone else - I'd love an uncomplicated, intervention-free, vaginal birth for DC#1, but the odds are less than even.
Very afraid of damage from episiotomy/tear and worried my wishes for an EMCS will be ignored in the moment because we give a vaginal birth-centre based delivery a go and end up needing interventions. Even if that results in EMCS, if the 'damage is done' it's too late.
1 in 3 new mums in my local trust deliver by Caesarean, 2/3 EMCS and 1/3 ELCS.
Given these odds, and my concerns, would you book ELCS and leave it at that? Or give it a go? Book a growth scan privately to see what measurements look like? Or is it irrelevant - are my dimensions (small in every direction) more important?
Especially any obstetricians / gynaecologists / friends and relatives of the same - I hear a lot of people say "my mate / SIL / DB etc is an obstetrician / surgeon / doctor etc and had all their kids by ELCS" - is this true?
I'm not ignorant of the realities of surgery vs vaginal delivery, risks to this and subsequent pregnancies / deliveries (although most of what I've read seems to overstate these risks), implications for recovery and establishment of breastfeeding etc - but my own body is high on my list of priorities. Hope that doesn't cause offence; I realise it sounds selfish and princessy.
Grateful for thoughts, thanks in advance.