Sleeping separately

[emma911030]

So I just wondered really has anyone/is anyone sleeping separately from their other half?
I'm 38+4 and uncomfortable as hell so I'm constantly tossing and turning through the night and going to the toilet lots.
Tonight I decided I'm sleeping in the spare room as my crappy sleep is affecting my OH who is very grouchy at the moment from my sleeping/lack of sleeping interrupting his sleep which I totally get cause it wound be pissing me right off of the shoe was on the other foot.
I feel guilty deciding to sleep alone but if we can both get some decent nights sleep before little man arrives I guess that's something at least?!
I am one very tired and fed up FTM to be x

I moved into the spare room at about 35 weeks, it meant we both were less disturbed because I had a king size bed to toss and turn in and DH didn't have me next to him tossing and turning all night.

DD is now 11 weeks and we're still in the spare room. It's made the new born period doable for us, we've been able to co-sleep, get breastfeeding well established without worrying about disturbing DH when she's cluster feeding until 3 am and we're not woken by him getting up for work at 5.30 am.

Meh my youngest is 12 and I have my own bedroom. There's no law that says you have to share a bed. I think a lot of people would sleep better seperately.

Dont stress about that. Sleep is at the top ATM. It doesn't matter how you get it.

I am thinking about sleeping on the (very comfy) sofa bed downstairs for the last few weeks as it will be the middle of summer and our room gets far too hot for me even when I'm not pregnant! Plus unless we get our en suite built in time (fingers crossed we will) the only toilet is downstairs. I like sleeping in the same bed as DH but wouldn't put it above getting a decent nights sleep. But my several trips to the toilet in the night either don't wake him or he instantly falls asleep again, so I'll only be moving if he's disturbing me, or the heat is!

We are at the moment.... but due to me having a hacking cough rather than due to pregnancy.

Honestly though, if it helps either or both of you get a better sleep then I think it’s a positive choice.

Also continuing from what @gamerchick said, my parents sleep in different rooms most of the time and they've been married for 30 years!

DH moves into the spare room when I was about 6 weeks with both pregnancies. He comes to bed with me, we have a chat about our days and then he heads off to the spare room.

I get very possessive over my personal space during pregnancy, and now at 36 weeks it takes me about three goes at turning over each time I want to swap sides, so for both our sakes it’s the right call!

I’m 26 weeks and we’re in different rooms because I had bsen struggling to sleep with hip pain and uncomfortableness.

Sleeping better than even now it’s great

We go to bed together but within about 5 minutes I'm off to the sofa, the bedroom is far too hot, he's like a giant snoring OVEN. (GroEgg says it's 16.5 degrees but feels like the heatwave.) I'm 31 weeks.

I generally come back to bed in the middle of the night. My turning over/needing the loo doesn't disturb him as he falls back asleep within 30 seconds. It disturbs me because every time I try to turn over – a marathon mission with all the support pillows – he wants to chat about whether I'm "ok". Long for a place big enough for separate bedrooms forever tbh!

Why would you feel guilty about that? Just do what works for you both. My husband and I often sleep separately as he wakes up a lot and wants to read. Also I apparently take my half of the bed out of the middle... and now my pillow takes the other half.

We sleep separately full stop, pg or not!
Separate rooms, it is lovely. I appreciate we are fortunate to have the space for this (as long as this pg isn’t twins).

Thank you ladies, I feel better knowing it seems to be quite a normal thing.
Thanks @emwithme I hadn't even considered staying separated for a while when baby arrives, I would like to try breastfeeding for as long as possible so will speak to OH today about that. Probably easier if he goes into spare room as all baby stuff is more or less set up in our room ready. Anything that's going to make life a little easier (him a little less grumpy through lack of sleep, he can help me more in the day then hopefully!) thanks again ladies! x

Same as a PP - We’re still sharing for the moment but as soon as the baby comes I will move into the spare room with her. DH has to be up at 6am for work and with our own space we can co-sleep and breastfeed so much more easily. Did it with my first baby too and it was one of the best decisions we made

Months ago 😂 he weren’t impressed at first but now has succumbed to the fact it’s this way until baby arrives!

In the last couple of months of my pregnancy I started snoring so some nights my partner would sleep in the spare room if I was keeping him awake.

The irony is that he has always been a loud snorer but I have learned to sleep through it!

30 weeks now, we started a couple of weeks ago sleeping separately during the week and together at the weekends when we don't have to get up for work. Absolutely dream decision, I have approx 362839 pillows 😂

Mine went in the spare room last night because he has a bad cough and dare I say it was amazing!! I slept so much better 😂 maybe doing it in the week is the way.

We slept separately for months with my first as I snored loads! This time, I didn't, so we managed to stay put the whole time. X